If your dealing with a guy for months and he still is not ready to settle down with you.. would you walk away or give it more time.. especially if he is the boring type.

And what I mean by boring type.. I mean the only time you two spend together is only when he comes over your house and spends the night maby 1 or 2 days at the most. No dates out of town anywhere.. and when you speak on it. It's always an excuse, since he works overnights him being tired and sleepy he uses that as an excuse more then anything. And it's like he never have any money. All he does is lie about how we are gonna do this or we're gonna go here.. He is going to buy me this and that never happens. He lives with his auntie and cousin so im not even sure how he never have any money... its like his money is gone 2-3 days after he gets paid.. and then he will ask me if I can bring him food etc. It's like once feelings already got involved its harder to walk away but at this point as each day goes on I'm starting to realize I'm not gaining anything with him.. and I will not lose anything either even if I walked away.

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He sounds like a bit of a bum. But I am curious How old is he? Why does he still live with his family? What exactly do you want from him and want him to do?
I would either leave now or express to him what exactly you need from him and put a hard date on it.

He said he doesn't have a car or anything to take me anywhere and stuff and how right now is not a good time to be settling down. But my thing is he knew all of this before he approached me.. and I never understood why men do that🤨🤦🏾‍♀️

If he said he doesn’t want a relationship then you are just a booty
call. Block him and move on.

I feel like the only reason you might want him is bc he has good 🍆. Because it doesn’t sound he he’s got shit to offer. I’d be done. He doesn’t sound like he wants a relationship.

….. agreed with all of the above.

What are you getting from this other than hopefully some great dick because what?!

Get away from this guy while you still can, he’s already telling you he doesn’t want to be “serious” so.

He sounds like a loser who isn't that into you.

Don't waste your time on him.

You want to go on dates, he doesn't. Idc what bs excuse he gives you.
Financially unstable or irresponsible, maybe both at 33.
Empty promises, gas lighting comes next.
You bring him food, do you drive him around or let him borrow the car?
Men do that because it benefits them. You hear men complain about gold diggers all the time online but they never talk about the men that use women to get what they want.
Im begging you to save yourself, put yourself first and get away from him. Ghost him so he doesn't have the chance to swindle you into staying with him. Idc how funny or cute he is. Not worth it, find a cute funny guy that got it going on in every way.
I know its possible my energy may come off aggressive but I passionately despise men like this. Idk how old you are, you seem young. When a man says not right now or he not ready is his nice way of saying no never. Technically he cant be the bad guy because you were never official and its easy to put the blame on you when this goes bad. When. Not if.

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