Baby 3 at 45?

I have just found out I’m pregnant. Not planned. Baby number one was a miracle at 40 and we were one and done. Then my dad died and the thought of going through it as an only child broke me so we tried and had a 2nd little boy at 43. We are blessed with our family and I’m more than happy with my lot. I have found out I am pregnant again at 45 and selfishly don’t want my life to change, not spoken to anyone yet but have completed my self referral to the midwife. Is 45 too old?

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I'm 44 with a 10 months old. I think it's only a little harder than in my 20s.

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Congratulations 🎊

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Definitely not too old! Congratulations!!!

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45 is not too old!! Congratulations! 🫶

I just had my first 2 weeks ago on my 43rd birthday- planning my second as soon as I have healed and if it go according to plan, I'll have another baby when I'm 45 :)

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I hope it’s not too old as just had my second at 45 🤣. She’s 10 months now. I had my first at 33. It wasn’t planned but I love her so much and wouldn’t change it for anything. I’d contemplate a third except by the time I’m ready I probably will be too old for real 😆

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It’s not too old and I’d say your extremely lucky to get pregnant naturally so think of it as a little miracle 😊

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If 45 was too old you wouldn’t have gotten pregnant. I’m 43 & wouldn’t mind having a 3rd child, if I were to get pregnant right now I’d be over 44 when they were born, but more than likely if I started trying now I’d probably be closer to 45 & see absolutely no problem with that, my kids are 16 & 4, 17 & 5 come mid September, they’re 12yrs 3d gapped, so my being pregnant wouldn’t negatively impact their lives as much either, I’d probably feel differently about it if my youngest was under 3, but that’s mostly bc I truly enjoyed giving my kids all, or at least most of my attention separately. My oldest was a preteen & very focused on independence already, my 4yo has started getting to that earlier independence stage, he’s trying to wake up before me, sweetly trying not to wake me, like his dad does on weekends. I can hear him getting cereal & milk & playing quietly w/toys. It’s bitter sweet, but I know he’d understand extra tired & less playful parents.

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