Am I over exaggerating my anger?

My mother in law has an obsession with my 2 year old boy, she revolves her life around him too much constantly wanting us to take him over, always wanting him to sleep at hers and now she has converted her garden in to a play ground for him

Mud kitchen
Climbing frame
Swings
Slides
Cars

You name it, it’s there

My issue is she never wants to help us it would be nice for her to say here is a gift put it in your garden, instead we buy the same as she has Bcos then our child wants one he can play on all the time at his house.

I get text messages from her saying “it’s a nice day come over so … can play in the garden”

We literally have a garden at home?

Also, I still have to provide her with nappies, wipes and snacks for my little boy when he sleeps over ???

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I don't think this is annoying. She seems involved but to me this is not being overbearing... If you don't feel like going just say no and offer her to come at yours or do something else ?
I don't know if there's something else to the story tho

Wow she’s sounds extremely kind and caring

I see why it might rub you up the wrong way a little but I’d kill for this kind of support. Is there any other context as to why this angers you?

I have a problem with people who think they are entitled to our children so I completely understand. They raised their kids now it’s our turn. Time spent needs to be approved with us first, not demanded. So I am on your side mama.

So the issue is MIL’s involvement is on her terms only? If you are tired of driving your children to see grandma every time. Then you can set a boundary like “we go over to grandma’s every week/other week/month for sleep overs. Grandma can come visit X amount of time per month.” “We can FaceTime grandma goodnight during the weekend.”

As for the gifts that she has bought for her grandchild in her house. You cannot control that. That’s her money and her house. You need to pick your battles carefully. Limit them to things that actually affect you directly, or impact your child negatively.

She sounds involved and I think you should be happy your son has a whole other person to love and care for him. If you’re tired of going over, just invite her over instead.

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I replied "she's a child."
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