Anxiety over nursery

I am dreading my little girl starting nursery! Not because it won’t be good for her, because I am scared to death of leaving her anyway but if she cries, I’ll walk out with her. I honestly will not cope.

I can’t be away from her now but if she cries at drop off…. this is something that keeps me awake at night, aswell as her waking!

She doesn’t start until Sept (had to start early to reserve her place), I’m due to start back at work end of Oct so I do have time for her the settle in and I’m around if she needs me. She also only be doing a couple of hours each week while I’m not at work. I still want my time with her.

I’m also worried that if she’s poorly/needs picking up and I’m at work and my husband can’t get there straight away - she’s not comfortable with anyone else, grandparents etc.

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Almost every child cries during the settling process at nursery. It’s hard but I promise you, 9/10 as soon as you leave your child starts playing with other children. The fact she is starting early is great (I’ll be doing the same with my son) because you have the time to settle as slowly as you both need. The nursery should be understanding of your feelings too so don’t be afraid to talk to the key person about it, they should send you tons of updates through her time with them to help put you at ease
- 15 years nursery experience x

Yeah, that's hard ♡. I remember feeling the same before mine started nursery at 4.5m. The settling periode reaaally helped, me even more than her! It took place over a couple of weeks, starting with leaving her with the nursery staff while doing paperwork with the nursery manager and then going home. Come back the next day, leave her for 1 h while I'm having a walk outside, coming back and going home together. Come back the next day, leave for a couple of hours etc... she never cried, i think because separation anxiety had not kicked in yet. After a few days she started to get excited as we were approaching the nursery door because she was soooo happy with the new toys, new faces etc. Now she barely acknowledges me when I come back which is another kind of hurt haha 😄. All this to say: great that you have plenty of time to settle, the nursery staff will help, you and your little one will get used to it over time especially once you see her enjoy the extra stimulation and it will soon be the new normal!

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