I just need to rant š„² I have no one else to rant to (mum drama)
So my mums a mix of things, narcissistic, manipulative, self absorbed etc etc.
The past 2 months weāve been living in a different area (1hr drive away) before this we lived 30 mins away, and before that we lived 1hr30m away, all within the span of 3/4 years. When we lived the furthest away, she never visited until my son was born because we told her we absolutely wonāt be driving with a newborn for that long, so she pretty much said we āforcedā her to visit, she was the last one to meet my son.
Living 30 mins away, she only came round to drop our son off (if my partner absolutely could not go and pick him up) but they were never āvisitsā sheās never sat there and had a cup of tea or even a chat/gossip with me (she loves gossip) it would always be what I can only describe as a co-parent drop off situation, or sheāll come in and belittle my home, then leave.
Anyway, so I knew moving away again would mean I go back to being alone most days (my partner works 12 hours a day sometimes longer) I settled with this, she hated that I was ātaking her grandsons awayā Iām currently pregnant with my 2nd. Weāve been calling each other most days, in the beginning it was a joint effort, 2 months later itās like Iām the only one trying to have a relationship with her? I told her the other day I was feeling extremely down and I was struggling with my mental healthā¦something I never sayā¦but I needed someone to know I wasnāt okay and needed help (my partners working away) her response āor no xā like what??? I just told you I feel like drowning etc etc and thatās it?
The past couple of weeks when Iāve been calling her sheās not been actively there you know? Like weāre on ft but sheās not acknowledging a single word Iām saying, she says all the time āI miss my grandsonā I donāt drive. My parents drive & have constant free timeā¦but wonāt make the journey :( she makes me feel constantly unloved and just like I could disappear tomorrow and no one but my partner will notice :( I just want an adult conversation with her, but Iām left feeling like a burden, like āurgh sheās calling againā
How do I stop giving into her? I want to distance myself from her & stop letting her hurt me everyday. Because Iāve done the whole ālet her reach out firstā and Iām left feeling guilty and she will lure me back in with all these false loving messages.
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Hi! Iām a ftm to a almost 3 y/o š Iām 25. I would say Iām a bit more mature than most whether from experience or just being a mom. Iām a homebody fs. I only go out to the library, casino, FOOD places, the park, ROSS (my sons fav store), etc. I donāt drink alcohol. I donāt mind if you do š Iām looking for a friend who loves the same boring stable life. No drama. Just tranquillity & encouragement to grow as people. Iām also applying to nursing school this summer, so if thereās any science nerds hmu. I prefer a book over most ā¦ I donāt have social media. I barely came back to my hometown after being away for 7 years. I love being alone but I wouldnāt mind grabbing coffee & going to a picnic while our kids run around. I donāt have friends here especially w kids.
