Trying not to compare

Went out today to take advantage of air con, with a new friend and her baby. Can’t help but feel that my LO is so difficult and fussy in comparison to hers and that I felt on edge trying to keep my baby quiet and settled whilst we were out. My two month old baby is a few weeks younger so maybe that makes a difference. Trying my best not to compare but can’t help but feel I’m doing something wrong…

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You’re not doing anything wrong. Some babies are just naturally fussier/harder to settle. It’s hard trying not to compare to other mums and babies but I can assure you your baby wasn’t fussing because you weren’t doing it right. They were fussing because they were fussy!
One of the mums I met through antenatal classes had a unicorn baby. Slept through from 6 weeks, would happily doze in her pram/cot with a dummy. The dream. My son was the absolute opposite. Always a terrible sleeper, would only sleep attached to me/the boob, hated the pram/cot/car seat. I convinced myself for a while that I was doing it wrong. I wasn’t, I just had a different baby. That mums second baby was also completely different and was a lot trickier to settle. It just depends on the baby.
Give yourself some grace! You’ve got this!

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