Kissing babies 😩

So frustrating for you. It's so hard when all you want to do is protect the baby. Plus those mama bear hormones are real!

I think maybe send her (and any other grandparents) a message saying "we have been advised not to let anyone who isn't a primary caregiver kiss the baby until he's 4 months old. We know it is coming from a loving place but it's the best we can do to protect him from illness. He's had a tricky start to life and so needs all the support we can give him, and this is how we can do that. Really hope you understand."

Then it lays it out and if they do it again you can remind them.

I sent a message quite early on in our family groupchat saying basically thankyou to everyone for their support and for not kissing my baby and that I was keeping it that way even after she wasn’t a newborn anymore for boundaries (I don’t want anyone kissing her besides me and her dad I find it way too invasive and weird) that way its not telling people what to do as such (even tho you have every right but a lot of people obv it’s uncomfortable) but people get the message from that before they get chance to do it

My mother in law did the same thing. It's so frustrating. If you look online there's signs/badges that you put on things, pram, babychair etc. that say things like "I know I'm cute but please don't kiss me"

Probably controversial to say this but I think the older generation just don’t get it and don’t want to get, just because they did things different back in the day, they think its acceptable. Set your boundaries, be firm, if it causes conflict, let it. It’s your baby at the end of the day.