Co-sleeping advice needed

I need the exact same advice. He refuses to sleep in his next to me crib even though I’m right there, I even lay on the mattress to warm it and so it smells like me and I put my bra/ breast pads in there with him but he wakes up after 2 mins unless he is on me day and night. I BF him too and I have tried the put down and pick up method but it kills my back because it’s every 5/10 mins and I can’t cope

Do you want to co-sleep or do you want baby in the next to me?

I think it’s mostly up to what you think is best for you. For me, I wanted sleep and felt taking the baby in & out of the bassinet would be more of a sleep interruption and didn’t make sense while I was still breastfeeding and night feeding. Once I stopped night feeds (still breastfed during the day) was when I was willing to do the bassinet. But it took a couple tough nights and consistency before it stuck.

Honestly - it’s not an argument my partner won. Proximity to nipples is what let us both get the most sleep.
He’s always been a light sleeper and very hard to transfer!
However if that’s what you want to do (and I can’t pretend being an all night boob buffet is much fun!) the advice of my midwife/health visitor was to start with the day naps, by putting them in the cot every time they fall asleep. No matter what consistently return them to it when they fall asleep. After a while sleeping in it will feel normal.
When you start it can also help for you to sleep with the cot sheet wrapped round you beforehand so it smells like you.
Good luck 🙂

Is the bed a king. I created a space using my pregnancy pillow. So baby was next to me but separate.
Also swaddling baby before she fell asleep helped with transfering her to bedside bassinet and also white noise going.