Feeling insecure

Anyone else got/had a body that won't shift the weight whilst breastfeeding without impacting supply? I was going to the gym and eating less and vegan losing weight but my supply just tanked. I'm feeling so gross and wobbly 😔 I've stopped going to the gym and just do some bodyweight exercises when I can, but it's not regular. So many people have said that the weight will drop off when I stop breastfeeding but equally, they said that would happen when I started breastfeeding 😆 I also don't know how to fit exercise in around parenting, now that I've gone back to work, even without the supply issues.

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Right there with you, plus the sleep deprivation - whilst my body is running on pure cortisol there's not a chance I'm losing any weight at all. I'm trying to be kind to myself and remember that I've grown and fed my baby but it's difficult - I'm just as big as I was when I was 6/7mo pregnant

my energy tanked in pregnancy and got even worse postpartum. I lost 3/5ths of my pregnancy weight (by 5wk PP) and has not budged any more than that. I have not worked out in any meaningful sense since last year. I’m an under supplier so can’t afford to do anything to tank my supply. Also feeling horrid in my PP body when I used to bike ride at least 50miles a week before pregnancy. this is the worst shape I’ve ever been in.
I’ve started using baby as a dumbbell to at least work arm strength. Haven’t been able to figure out what to do about my knee pain yet, despite doing body weight exercises.

Oh I'm right there with you! Really don't feel myself. Feel like nothing fits anymore and hate what I see in the mirror! But again having to remind myself daily I have birthed a baby as well as fed them! And question, where an earth do people find the time to work out?

🙋‍♀️ both kids, I couldn't lose any weight at all without my supply tanking. The first time around I struggled really badly with it, I was a solid 50lb more than my pre- pregnancy weight and everyone said the weight would just "melt off" while breastfeeding 🙄
The second time I knew it was coming and made my peace with it.
The weight sure didn't "drop off" when I stopped, but it did become possible. Working out is still a struggle (2y pp now), I'm not a high energy person 😅 and I struggle to find the time for it. Right now I'm focusing on just staying as active as possible with my kids during the day (sahm) and squeezing in little bite-sized workouts when I have 5-10 minutes to spare, and I use my daughter as a weight for anything I can handle 30ish lbs.

Also - I specifically only follow fitness influencers with kids and/or focused on pp core rebuilding. They're a lot more realistic than childfree 20-somethings spouting "we all have the same 24 hours, no excuses" bs, and some of them have great ideas for working out at home when you have kids.

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I want to preface this and say I was diagnosed with post natal depression, and I chose not to have any medication etc because it’s not an all the time thing if that makes sense?

I’m sure I’m only feeling this way because it’s warm, I’ve got really bad back pain at the moment so struggling to be on the floor and run after him etc, & he’s going through a regression of dropping naps, fighting sleep etc.

I digress;

I don’t know if anyone else feels this way, and I want to start by saying I know you can’t have a baby based off other people helping you. However I deeply regret having a baby and don’t think I’d of done it if I knew it was going to be like this?

We don’t have a support unit, our mums drop in for an hour when it’s convenient for them like before they do their weekly shop or on their way to a night out etc.
My MIL makes me feel guilty for not visit her when we don’t drive, nor does she ever offer to have the baby. She always messaged me asking to go out drinking but I can’t because I have her grandson to look after?
My mum does have the baby every school holiday as she is a teacher so can’t really have him any other time but during term time doesn’t make an effort.
We both have siblings (mine are younger and his are older) but they don’t bother anymore.

When I was pregnant everyone was so excited for this baby but since he’s been here no one care and I feel so bad for him as well.
To put into context he is almost walking and there are people that haven’t seen him since he was pre crawling that’s how long they leave it.

They say it take a village but we are so on our own. To top it off my partner works until 9pm so I’m on my own all day, do everything by myself, do every bed time, every bath time etc I’m the one that gets the brunt of my son when he’s pulling my hair, biting and refusing to go to sleep.

I just feel so defeated, like I miss my son when I’m not around him but I feel like I’m running on a really really empty tank and I just want to run away and tell someone else to have a fucking turn.

I know this is going to sound bitter but even my friends, I hope when they have kids they regret never reaching out. I try but no one seems to want to hang out now that it involves a baby and not a night out?

Idk this is so long and I just needed to get it off my chest, I feel I can’t talk to anyone that this is about because they will feel attacked? Idk just feel so bloody down. All I wanted in my life was to be a mum and I thought I was resilient but I guess I’m not🙃

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