Leaving baby over night for first time

Hi mums!

Looking for some advice. I’m planning for my baby to stay with my brother and his partner soon over night so my partner and I can go to our staff do.

I’ve never left my baby before over night. He’s 14 months. They are very trusted family members and their little one is the same age as my baby. So it’ll be like a little cousin sleep over.

I can’t help but be filled with mum guilt and anxiety. My partner and I both work full time at the same job and split childcare between us. One does morning shift and other does night shift and in return the parent not working is looking after my baby. He’s not in nursery.

We both need some time to let our hair down a little bit and just breathe. I know we deserve the night to go out with pure friends and then slip off to relax as a couple but I can’t help but feel like I’m being selfish and that my baby is too young?

How old was everyone when their baby had their first sleepover? Am I being unreasonable or selfish? I actually think my sister in law and brother are looking forward to looking after him as they have picnics planned and already have everything a baby would need. I’m hoping when he gets to their house he will be interested in all of his cousins toys that he doesn’t have at home lol!

I am really lucky to have this opportunity to leave him somewhere trusted and safe with two family members who are extremely trustworthy.

Not only do I think it’ll be good for my relationship, but I want my baby to have quality time with his family. They all love him so much , and when we go to visit them he has so much fun. I want him to get used to being with family without mum and dad there.

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