Positivity poll 🩷🫂 What is something you see another mother doing that makes you think "she's doing a great job"

Let's try to lift each other up more! There's sooo much negativity already, but we're all doing the best we can with our own unique situations.

I'll go first!

I get so happy when I see a mother breastfeeding. I struggled so much with breastfeeding both my children, I know how incredibly tough and draining it can be, so it makes me so proud to see someone doing it successfully, and also not giving a fuck what others think and doing it in public.

Any pregnant woman who is literally out of her house, that's it. If you're pregnant, and you've left your house (especially if you're at your job!!) like I always just think back to my pregnancies and how draining it was to do anything, leaving the house felt like it was taking years off my life by the 3rd trimester 😅

Also whenever I see a pregnant mother with a small child in the supermarket like until you've experienced it, you'll never know how difficult that shit it 😂 not only do you need to keep on top of your kid, you also need to deal with the nausea and being surrounded by food that may trigger you, the smells, people getting in your way, standing for so long. Ugh, it's not for the weak. Respectfully, man could never 🤣

I love when I notice a kid who is reeeally into something niche and their parents have totally embraced it, no matter how weird it is. There was a boy at my sons playgroup who loved feathers and he carried around a big feather. His mum found several big, soft feathers for him to hold/stroke instead of a bear or blanket. I don't know if she ever worried about him being looked at weird but I just thought it was so sweet

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I admire crafty DIY moms. I don’t have a crafty bone in my body and I really wish I did. I see moms DIY’ing literally every little thing for their child’s birthday as an example (decor, cake, favors) and they get their kids involved and I think it’s awesome. I’m one to just buy everything and sometimes I don’t think it’s as special 😕

little details in making their kids food. like cutting cute shapes into fruits or color coordinating utensils and cups. just cute intentional things like that

Honestly there’s nothing in super particular, any time I see a mom with a young baby I try to say something like “you’re doing an amazing job”
A few days ago I was walking my dogs while my toddler was at home with his dad & I saw a mom burping her newborn after a feed session as they were sitting in the florist parking lot, I just said “you’re doing so good momma” (it feels weirder when I am without my child & say something because I look like I am 16 to people who don’t know me LMFAO but I still make a point to say something even when I feel a little awkward, cause I know how good it feels to be seen)

Breastfeeding mom. I will always look her right in the eyes and smile and nod. Moms with a newborn out in public...shes killing it. A mom with a toddler in public having a meltdown? You deserve an award. Mom walking with her slow AF child letting them take their time and explore? Its the journey not the destination.
A SINGLE mom!?!?! My hero.

I love when we go to the library and the parent is reading aloud to their baby/child.
I actually just love any interaction that isn't a threat or a scream. I love seeing parents who are talking to their kids and not just on their phones*. I just love seeing families building bonds!

*I'm aware, especially busy Mums, that sometimes being on your phone is a necessary evil. Got to pay a bill, reply to an email, book an appointment. It's unavoidable. That's why when all the jobs are done it's fun to see families having fun together.

I admire moms that speak to their children with such detail and patience!

I love seeing parents defending thier kids from other people or from other kids. I also love seeing parents ask thier kids to help with the shopping especially in the grocery store. Is so cute seeing a toddler struggling to put apples in bags and the parent being patient and saying thank you for helping

I love seeing moms with their kids in nice clothes, new looking shoes and with their hair done and a clean face. You can tell they put in the effort to keep their kids healthy and well cared for ❤️ bonus points if the mom is not nearly as put together lol, I see where your effort goes momma 😂

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Postnatal rage

I think i have postnatal rage. Im always just about to flip out over the smallest thing. I had my baby 10 weeks ago

Please tell me im not alone.. anyone else?.

Can’t cope with this

My baby is 5 weeks old. She has been crying for days.

I can’t do this anymore. I have a toddler and she’s waking him multiple times a night and then his behaviour is dreadful all day..

She takes a feed and then screams inconsolably for up to 2 hours after a feed. She then settles and is due another feed again.

I am so unbelievably depressed. I’m not sleeping and I’m not coping and I do not know what to do.

Reassurance

My 5mo rolled out of bed and fell onto the floor. I rang 111 immediately and they didn’t seem too concerned- they requested the out of hours go to ring back within 2 hours. We fell asleep so I missed the phone calls (2am). But the 111 speaker said it has been raised as a safeguarding issue and someone will be out to see me. So I’m a little nervous. Can anyone offer any experience or reassurance of this?
My baby was asleep when she fell and didn’t cry when she landed on the floor. She didn’t seem to have much change, a few red marks on her head that have since faded.
Should I take her to the GP in the morning just to be safe? I’m prob going to anyway. I just feeel like such a rubbish mum.

Allergy or normal?

My 8 week old baby has been pulling her legs up, grunting through the night and sometimes arches her back when feeding (and then we burp her and shes ok). The health visitor watched me feed her on Wed & said she was bloated after 2 oz which wasn't normal. She suggested she may have an allergy to the milk (we were using kendamil), her trumps were smelly and we were having to do bicycle legs often and help her to go for a 💩. Her 💩 started off as a paste like consistency and then was runny.

We changed to aptimel pep 1 on Wed and she's even worse, she's refusing the bottle, is crying out in pain and isn't trumping on her own at all and is even worse going for a 💩.

My question is... has anyone had similar experiences to what my baby was like on Kendamil, like was it normal baby behaviour or does she have an allergy to the cows milk?

Any help would be greatly appreciated! Me and my partner are going out of our minds 🙏 x

Did you feel relief at child birth?

I'm talking when baby starts physically exiting lol, did you get a sensation of relief, like pressure leaving your body? Or even when your water broke?
My water didn't break until I was pushing and honestly the relief was crazy, like I had been holding my breath for 9 months and finally I could breathe. When I pushed her out I felt like I had been constipated for 9 months and finally pooped, except it was my baby (and probably also a little bit of poop 😂)

Does / Did your partner do night feeds so you could sleep?

Comment how many / for how long and did he have to go to work early the next morning?