19 weeks old and won’t nap independently

My 19 week old will only nap on me and will only nap for 30 minutes on the dot independently in her crib. I’ve tried recreating the nighttime routine for naps and gentle methods, but nothing is working. Is anyone else going through this? Any advice or tips would be really appreciated!

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This is very normal at this age, my two boys were the same. She will eventually get there I promise. Just enjoy the cuddles while it lasts. Hang in there

I think my little one didn’t start napping independently until around 10 months. And what I mean by that is me cuddling her to sleep and her staying asleep for an hour after I put her down. She’s 18 months now and still doesn’t fall asleep by herself and will look for me if she wakes up by herself 😬 I know that some people find methods to help their babies be more independent during nap time though like sleep training. We just never tried that. I promise it gets easier ❤️❤️

So so normal at this age!!
I remember having the same struggles but honestly consistency is the biggest factor.
The reason your baby is only lasting 30 minutes during the day is because daytime sleep and nighttime sleep actually use two different parts of the brain! Your baby just doesn’t know how to connect sleep cycles during the day yet, and that’s okay! She will get it.
Consistency is your best friend, keep trying but don’t get discouraged when it doesn’t work. One day she will surprise you!
I know it’s hard not having time to yourself when you can’t put baby down, but try as best as you can to cherish the snuggles 🩵

This is totally fine and it prevents SIDS!
Also around this age is sleep progression.

In the next months, sleep changes rapidly and will improve a lot! No need to sleep train!

It’s normal. They’re only/barely 5 months old. Contact naps are very important for their overall development and emotional stability. Let them nap on you. Enjoy it while it lasts. It’ll end soon and you’ll miss these days

Its super normal. Sleep cycles last 30-45min and they don't know how to connect their cycles yet. Once they learn how to keep themselves asleep or fall back to sleep on their own then they will be able to sleep for longer periods of time. But its super super normal. My current 8mo still wakes up during naps and needs me to give her paci and milk and she falls back asleep

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Postnatal rage

I think i have postnatal rage. Im always just about to flip out over the smallest thing. I had my baby 10 weeks ago

Please tell me im not alone.. anyone else?.

Can’t cope with this

My baby is 5 weeks old. She has been crying for days.

I can’t do this anymore. I have a toddler and she’s waking him multiple times a night and then his behaviour is dreadful all day..

She takes a feed and then screams inconsolably for up to 2 hours after a feed. She then settles and is due another feed again.

I am so unbelievably depressed. I’m not sleeping and I’m not coping and I do not know what to do.

Reassurance

My 5mo rolled out of bed and fell onto the floor. I rang 111 immediately and they didn’t seem too concerned- they requested the out of hours go to ring back within 2 hours. We fell asleep so I missed the phone calls (2am). But the 111 speaker said it has been raised as a safeguarding issue and someone will be out to see me. So I’m a little nervous. Can anyone offer any experience or reassurance of this?
My baby was asleep when she fell and didn’t cry when she landed on the floor. She didn’t seem to have much change, a few red marks on her head that have since faded.
Should I take her to the GP in the morning just to be safe? I’m prob going to anyway. I just feeel like such a rubbish mum.

Allergy or normal?

My 8 week old baby has been pulling her legs up, grunting through the night and sometimes arches her back when feeding (and then we burp her and shes ok). The health visitor watched me feed her on Wed & said she was bloated after 2 oz which wasn't normal. She suggested she may have an allergy to the milk (we were using kendamil), her trumps were smelly and we were having to do bicycle legs often and help her to go for a 💩. Her 💩 started off as a paste like consistency and then was runny.

We changed to aptimel pep 1 on Wed and she's even worse, she's refusing the bottle, is crying out in pain and isn't trumping on her own at all and is even worse going for a 💩.

My question is... has anyone had similar experiences to what my baby was like on Kendamil, like was it normal baby behaviour or does she have an allergy to the cows milk?

Any help would be greatly appreciated! Me and my partner are going out of our minds 🙏 x

Did you feel relief at child birth?

I'm talking when baby starts physically exiting lol, did you get a sensation of relief, like pressure leaving your body? Or even when your water broke?
My water didn't break until I was pushing and honestly the relief was crazy, like I had been holding my breath for 9 months and finally I could breathe. When I pushed her out I felt like I had been constipated for 9 months and finally pooped, except it was my baby (and probably also a little bit of poop 😂)

Does / Did your partner do night feeds so you could sleep?

Comment how many / for how long and did he have to go to work early the next morning?