Csection after pains

Any midwifes or anyone who knows/had more than 1 csection help me out please 🙏 so im 3 weeks post section and iv been fine been mobile and done some housework with the help of this hand grabber I pinched from my mam to limit bending over and obviously school runs with my toddler which involves a hill. Iv just woken to my baby crying so grabbed him soothed him and it hit agonising pain in my belly it took everything to get up and get some codine that was left over. It feels like cramps that are intense and stinging around my wound my partner checked and everything is fine and the pain has eased whilst lying down flat ngl I thought something was about to erupt and I was going to die. Is this normal part of recovery 3 weeks in? He looked it up and says one of the options is tissue and nerves healing back together but I want to know if others experience this too?

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Not meant to be a mother or wife

Ever since I became a mother Nov 2024, I’ve been having this feeling that I wasn’t meant to be a mother and my mother and grandmother second guessing all my decisions when it comes to my daughter doesn’t help ofc. I do what my daughter’s doctor recommends for her and they want to do everything how they did when I was a baby. I try to get them to see that the recommendations changed from when I was a baby and it seems like they think they know what’s best for my baby, more than I do and I’m so over it. I’ve resorted to just letting them raise her and take care of her. I don’t have the energy to care anymore and I’ve been going through depression and it seems like no one cares until I attempt to take my life. My husband is no help either, he doesn’t even seem to care when I cry myself to sleep when he’s right there. I feel like we’re headed right to divorce, which will make my depression even worse. Am I the problem? I don’t even know but I need help!😔 my therapy sessions once a week aren’t doing enough.

Big penis

Women who have had sex with a man with a big penis(like 8+ inches) what was your experience? Ive only been with my husband and hes pretty average (6.5). Is bigger really better?

Please tell me I’m not the only one 😩

Today has completely thrown us. My 11-week-old was awake for around 6 hours with hardly any proper nap, despite us trying everything to get her to sleep. She’d yawn, we’d try to settle her, but she just wouldn’t go off. To make it even harder, I think she needed a poo and was bunged up, so her sleep and hunger cues became really confusing.

Our health visitor wasn’t concerned, but I’m finding it so hard to know what to do when she seems exhausted but just won’t sleep.

Has anyone else’s baby had days like this? What worked for you? Did they eventually grow out of it?

I feel like we’ve got it all wrong today. It’s not the first time it’s happened either, so I’d really love to know we’re not alone ❤️

Struggling…

I’m really struggling at the moment. The cluster feeding is exhausting. The loud crying is heartbreaking and frustrating in equal measure. I lose my patience so quickly, especially doing the night feeds. My back is killing me. I feel so isolated and lonely even though I have a partner and family surrounding me. I could just cry constantly. We’re 5 weeks in and it just feels like it’s never going to get better. I love her so much I just wish it would be a little bit easier some days..

Advice please- poorly toddler

My son randomly got unwell around 4:30pm tonight. We was out visiting family so I bought him home and he was sleepy. Tested his temperature when we got home and it was 39.1 and he was very sleepy.
He had 5ml calpol at 5:45 and the temperature was 39.1. At 6:30 it was 38.2 so I tried to give him some milk and he only drank 4oz, usually he’d finish the whole 8oz and fell back to sleep. I’ve put him in his cot with a fan oscillating just checked it again and his temp is 37.8 but he’s still very sleepy.
It’s usually his bedtime anyway but do I try waking him and see if he properly wakes up or do I leave him to sleep and see how he goes in the night?

He was shivering earlier which he’s never done with a high temperature before so I’m extra worried he’s going to be extra sleepy even though his temperatures came down I’m not quite sure what to do. Any advice will be appreciated please x

What time does your baby go to bed?

My babies 7 weeks and we just put him to bed when we go to bed which can be like 10-11. Unsure if I should be making an effort to do so earlier? He does basically contact nap on us the whole evening