7 weeks and struggling

He’s too young to self soothe and that’s likely why he is waking after 20 minutes, try a contact nap and he will likely sleep for longer, it won’t be forever but it’s literally impossible for him to self soothe at 7 weeks. This doesn’t usually happen until around 4 months. If he is only having short 20 minute naps in the day this is probably why he is so unsettled at 6/7 due to over tiredness. Have a look at the huckleberry app it helps with sleep and wake windows x

Hi! Psychologist to be here🫶 you’re absolutely not wrong mama, in fact, babies will not be capable to start the process of self-soothing until they are 4 months old. And that will only be the start, when they start sucking on their fingers or gently rocking on their own to self regulate.

And only at 6 months do they start growing neural pathways that would allow them to settle themselves to sleep. They would only be able to build those neural pathways IF THEIR CAREGIVERS CO-REGULATE THEM up until this point.

So scientifically you are not spoiling him in fact you’re being an amazing mother, doing what you’re doing will help your little angel grow up to be secure and safe, and it will help him self-soothe when he’s ready🫶

Thank you so much ladies because I feel like I am losing it by being told that I am doing too much and he won’t ever want to be put down but stay in my arms forever…because even my pediatrician was like we don’t negotiate with terrorists when I told her about my baby mostly contact napping which made me even feel horrible like I am supposed to force him to sleep in his bassinet even if he doesn’t want to and coming from a doctor you would think they are 100%right because they are doctors so that also got to me