Perineal tear recovery 🙏

I gave birth a week ago and had two tears - one episiotomy and one ✨ spontaneous ✨ tear. It’s still very sensitive and sore, especially when I’ve sat for a long time or go for a wee. If you had a tear, when did it start feeling better? I feel like the first couple of days weren’t even that bad. Maybe it’s because the stitches are starting to dissolve now? Idk

It doesn’t feel infected or anything like that but today I went for a wee and it literally made me cry from the sting 🥲

I have a peri bottle and do all of the right things in terms of keeping the area clean etc.

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I had a 3rd degree and literally took like 8-10 weeks to completely not hurt

This is my second 3rd degree 🙃😬 but it does take at least 6 weeks to heal! I am still taking pain killers most days, can really tell if I haven't taken them!

I had the same, I darent even look at my "frank-angina" as I named it. The midwife was happy with the healing of it, but I remember the shuffling to sit down was absolutely awful!
It did get better pretty quickly, I felt ok in under a month I'm sure.

Around 8 weeks. It’s rough hope you feel better soon. Once the stitches dissolved I got them checked a lot, was paranoid it wasn’t healing but was reassured it was ok. Like you I used the bottle every time I went to the bathroom.

I had an episiotomy and a second degree tear with my first delivery. My episiotomy got slightly infected and it was so painful to sit down from the get go. 17 months later I had my second delivery and I actually had scare tissue growing on it and didn’t even realise. Just keep up with the peri bottle and making sure it is dry after showering etc. xo

I had just a episiotomy and I’m currently on day 10 and only just started to feel better! Not much pain anymore only if I’ve walked for a long period of time due to where the stitches are. Everyday I have a shower and lay on a maternity pad and let it air for around 45 mins and I feel that’s really helped me! Sorry you are in so much pain, I hope you have a quick recovery time!

Had an episiotomy with my first and it took a good 6 weeks to feel some what normal again. This time I had a second degree with stitches and it's only now 3.5 weeks after I feel normal again.
It just takes time ❤️
I remember with my first even months later I would sit a certain way and feel a twinge.

I had an episiotomy with my first born but with my second I had two second degree tears in both directions. I'm almost 3 weeks postpartum and am still very sore, but one thing to remember is everyone's pain scale is different and the average healing maybe 6 weeks but don't be suprised if you feel better before or if your still feeling slightly sore after. Hope your recovery goes smoothly and congratulations on little one x

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