how do you manage to do everything?

Girl, firsts things first, give yourself some grace. Seriously, its hard to take care of an entire house with a new born. Especially when you first start doing it. And you just had baby 2 months ago. It took me until about 6 months old(I think maybe older) to finally get my son on a sleep routine where I could actually count on him going to sleep at certain times throughout the day(usually not always) And once I was able to that everything else fell into line. I could nap during his first nap if I needed to nap(you need sleep too mama) or clean the house and during his 2nd nap I could clean or shower or get some prep work in for dinner.
Also don't be afraid to ask for help if that's an option. Having help saved my sanity during this time.
I hope this helps a little. ❤️🫂 And really sleep schedule was the best starting point for me.

I bought an ADHD binder just for getting myself into a routine. But mainly (and more importantly) just focusing on the most necessary of tasks: dishes, trash, and laundry. After that, I would go to what can quickly make the house look better. Wiping down surfaces, sweeping, and picking things off the floor. Message me if you would like the planner images 😊

I am learning and not perfect but I built myself a weekly schedule that is flexible, and work around my baby’s routine. So example- every day I have my non-negotiables I have to do (1 load laundry, kitchen clean, load dish washer and bottle washer, feed dogs, etc.) , I then have a goal like cleaning my bathrooms on Mondays, cooking on Tuesdays (batching), Wednesdays could be tidying bedrooms…hope that makes sense. Let me know if you have questions.

He truth is, I don't manage to do it all. It's impossible. I think we need to lower our expectations. You should never feel embarrassed infront of your partner for the state of the house. You're doing so much work, keeping that little baby of yours alive, safe, clean, fed, happy, entertained etc. It is a full time job on its own. I've got two kids now and I just accepted its not possible to do it all. Even when I had my first only, it was difficult. There was always something to be done. And when I finished it by some miracle, 5 minutes later the next meal made the kitchen and diner messy, the toys were out, the laundry needing sorting, bins were full again. Etc. You just do your best, and find what's an acceptable balance. You'd go insane trying to keep your house perfect, I believe that doesn't exist. If so, everyone is eating frozen or fastfood forever. In all my honesty, when kids were little, we had a cleaner for a long time, she'd come fortnightly and deep clean the house. So i would tidy before then.

Use a baby carrier