First time Mum’s

Not a FTM but it does get better with them needing contact, new challanges come but they eventually can be put down for longer periods, it maybe best to have a look into other carriers if this one is hurting your back or having a look through instructions again to make sure its correct, it shouldnt be hurting so quickly, theres some with thick lower back support avaliable which tend to support babys weight better.

But youre doing amazing keep going, remember if babys changed, fed, and all needs are met they are ok to be put down so you can fulfill your needs even if they cry ( i know it can be hard) but its impossible to care for someone else if you dont also care for yourself x

How old is your baby? Mine is 2months and the day is looking very much the same. I see other moms having coffee dates & meeting friends and I don’t feel like I can even leave the house without my partner coming with me as my baby would start crying the minute we leave - he only loves being held , doesn’t like carrier or pushchair. I also struggle with M.E/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, which makes things incredibly difficult as my limbs & body hurts from exhaustion yet I still need to pick him when he cries. The back pain feom carrier should get better but if it doesn’t I recommend a cotton sling - it works much better for me as it spreads out his weight more evenly and doesn’t add so much pressure on one spot. 🤍

Also I wanted to encourage you to not feel bad about not playing with him much. You’re doing your best and that’s what matters. I bet he loves the contact naps and feels really loved - that’s all that matters for now 🤍

Nappy, feeds, sleep (contact naps) i do some singing and read/ tell some stories (but that's to entertain myself too) . I'm lucky that my husband works at home 4 days a week, so I inhale my lunch when he is here watching our son. I meet a friend from work once a week for coffee but I don't go out as much I would like