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Stay At Home Mamas 🤍

Frustrated with husband

Needing to vent.

My husband is a teacher and is home for the summer. It sounds like it would be nice and I’d have help and to some extent it is but in other ways it’s way more frustrating because 1. He is a clean freak. When it was just me. We’d be messy and just clean up before he got home. But now we clean more often during the day and it’s just more work. 2. He has it in his mind that it’s summer vacation and he wants to do all this free time stuff….. we both take time having our kid and the other having a bit away from him. However, in my time away from him I’m doing chores, and in my husbands time away he does his hobby. We’ve talked about it and he says well just use your free time how you want. That sounds nice but if I did that we would have no food, clothes, and the house would be a mess.

He then says how much stuff he does around the house, and he’s not technically wrong but he doesn’t realize some of it I do as well (so he’s doing 1/2 of that) and that most of his stuff is once a week or every other week or even less often. Mine is mostly daily and multiple times a day.

We are going to talk again after baby goes to bed but it’s so frustrating. And actually I haven’t minded for the most part. But today he came in and was frustrated bc he “had the baby so much more than me”….. he had him 30 minutes more and they’ve watched tv/he’s been on his phone the whole time and half of his time was baby napping on him. Meanwhile all of my time with baby he was awake and crazy, I fed him all his meals, took him outside twice where he got super dirty and I had to wash him off, read books and kept him away from tv.

I just don’t know how to get my husband to understand it’s not the same. Not only that. My kid plays alone or is calm with my husband and cries and whines and clings onto me. We just have such different experiences