Advice Wanted! Baby Daddy gone

Hi! So, I got pregnant with one of my “best friends” who we’ve been on and off feelings for 7+ years. I told him I was pregnant and he tried to coerce me into abortion saying that’s the only option here. He isn’t ready, doesn’t have a stable life, and pretty much said he won’t be there as a father. I let him know that I decided to keep the baby and he ghosted and never replied. I have learned that he’s sold all his stuff in the town we live in and moved 2 hours away. Do I tell him when the baby is due or do I just leave it? Curious what any other moms / moms to be think or have to say. Thank you!! 🫶🏻

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I know this is difficult. Having a baby is life changing so I think you need to accept deeply in your heart and soul that this baby will be born with an absent father. It will be unhealthy to think that he will come around and fall in love with you and baby. You will be a single mom and raise this baby on your own. If anything this will teach you to be independent and to stop chasing the man that doesn't want a baby with you.

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Hey girl, first of all congratulations on your pregnancy. Keeping the baby is entirely your choice don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it. I’ve been in and had friends in similar situations. His reaction is not about you it’s a reflection of him. It’s completely up to you if you’d like to tell him. I probably would tell him closer to the due date. If he doesn’t come around after some time or reply then you’ve got your answer. Continue loving this baby and focusing on yourself. I know it’s hard especially with the history you have but take every day as it comes. It’s his loss at the end of the day. Btw do you know if he’s receiving your messages or he has blocked you? Either way you can say you tried. Always here if you need someone to message x

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I have been with this older man for about 11 months when i got pregnant basically he couldn’t get a job the whole time. Now a year since his last full time job, he was got offered a job that’s 30 days + contract around US and 30 days off.

He left at 6 months and at 8-9 months. He knows i have no family around and now is threatening to send our text to his other 2 bms. Texts where i am saying for his lack of care for updates on how we’ve been the last few week i wondered how those other 2 women went through it. These women for context have fought each other and treat the children of the other terribly so he’s told me.

He’s accused me of sleeping with my adoptive dad and will not stop. The only boyfriend my dad has ever allowed himself to meet btw. Again 9 months with no support and a man willing to stay away and threaten me with his family. What should I do!???!

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So I've just had another argument with my partner. We've been together for 7 years and have a 5 year old son and I'm due in 4 weeks. I've just found out he's been slagging me off to his work mates and saying I won't let him go out with them. For context I found out he was cheating on me 2 weeks before I knew I was pregnant. I suffer with depression and anxiety anyway and have been having counselling for it, this tipped me. We agreed to try again but there have been times when he's said he wished he was still cheating on me so he'd have a reason to deal with my attitude to now. I've not said no he can't go out but have asked if he could give me some notice and where he'll be as I'm high risk pregnancy and had a haematoma burst at 7 weeks, which we didn't know what it was at the time and even the nurse at work thought I was miscarrying. I am clingy and need reassurance at the moment and I thought he understood. The fact that he's been bad mouthing me with no context or admission as to why I'm like this makes me feel he blames me and doesn't understand at all. Sorry for the long post. Just very confused and need some advice. Thanks.

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