Birthday….
Would you be annoyed or am I being dramatic…
It’s my birthday today , 33!
Woke up this morning, no cards, presents or anything off my husband.
Kids come down stairs and go ‘ where’s the presents off dad ‘ I said ‘ I don’t know you’ll have to ask dad ‘
Anyways, nothings said, make lunches as usual and sort the kids
Gets to 8.15 am and he leaves for work and then goes ‘ oh btw happy birthday your cards should come today but you didn’t tell me what you wanted so I didn’t get you anything ‘
He’s then messaged with a screen shot with a load of computer stuff getting delivered today for his ‘ man cave’ and asking if I’ll be in.
Bare in mind this man had £30 left last night, asked him how he’s got the stuff for his PC ( I was meant to be buying most of it for his 30th next month) and he said he’s using his mates klarna and clearpay.
I’m not mad, just feel disappoint at zero effort has been made 😔
Husband & MIL
Can someone please tell me if this was rude. I don't feel like this a huge let me get divorce situation but I also know progressively it will bother me more. My MIL at the beginning was always being rude to my husband and giving me back handed comments; she noticed that her "help" was not needed as much as she thought, she's used to being needed when it comes to caring for babies in her family bc the parents lack basic parenting. Now she's always on my husbands business, 5 years in and I'm noticing my husband has mommy issues. His mom was very manipulative and was present but not hands on with them. Long story short she was rude to
Now to the message:
I discussed to my husband that when my child goes over to his parents or my parents; he's there so his grandparents can enjoy his company not for them to take care of him. Why did I say this? Because I noticed that both parties lack patience. So why would I put my child in uncomfortable situation, they're not bad grandparents but if you didn't parent your own children how can you do it with a grandchild, my husband knew that I work really hard for my son to not have screen time. Well, his grandma gave him the iPad before bed, my son comes home with dad the next day a complete feral child crying to watch something on the TV. I asked him if he has screen time with grandma and he said yes. He shared dad fell asleep and he slept with grandma and grandpa. I also shared with my husband that I don't like that. I don't want my child sleeping with anyone. My husband shares that my mil asked when he was going to visit____, another state. idk what she's thinking but we're not in financial place to be traveling, but that's non of her business. Not only that my husband cannot watch our kid all day and night. Like hell need some screen time. Literally, it takes a lot to not have screen time. Not only that but I have noticed that he allows our kid to walk behind him I parking lots, doesn't pack his essentials properly like water bottles etc. so why would I be okay with him taking our kid to another state with my MIL. Also, my mil gave my son gum, and when he was a young toddler they almost gave him peanuts like that little seed snacks.
Considering how pushy she is I messaged her and said the following, I also told her she's more than welcome to take my husband to her trip since my husband wants to be baby by her at his grown age and she wants to do what she didn't want to do before;
Any tips for an anxious toddler?
Hi mamas,
I need some advice about my little girl. She's 22 months old and is a real character most of the time. She's never been a chilled baby from the day she was born and definitely has a bit of a bossy boots personality, especially with me. It seems to come out most when she's anxious about me leaving the room or when I'm not giving her my full attention, particularly when we're at home.
For example, if I'm trying to do jobs around the house, she'll follow me around crying and throwing herself on the floor. This can be something as simple as making her lunch. She can see me the whole time, and I always make sure she has everything she needs, toys, books, etc. So she can hopefully play while I get on with what I need to do.
Sometimes it's so bad that I've started asking my husband (who works from home) to sit with her while I pack her nappy bag or get the pram ready so she stays calm. I'm not talking about doing a full house clean, just really small, everyday tasks.
I worry that I'm pandering to her anxiety by doing this, but at the same time I'm just trying to keep the peace so we can get out of the door without everything turning into a meltdown.
I've also found myself relying on the TV quite a lot, which I'm not happy about. We only watch low-stimulation programmes, but the TV is often on for most of the time we're indoors because it's one of the only things that keeps her settled.
Outside the house you couldn’t find a more confident, cheerful, cheeky monkey. She runs circles around me in for an entirely different reason and is outwardly confident.
Has anyone else been through something similar? Is this just a phase, or is there anything I can do to help her become a bit more independent and comfortable when I'm busy for a few minutes? I'd really appreciate any advice or reassurance.
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