Husband & MIL

Can someone please tell me if this was rude. I don't feel like this a huge let me get divorce situation but I also know progressively it will bother me more. My MIL at the beginning was always being rude to my husband and giving me back handed comments; she noticed that her "help" was not needed as much as she thought, she's used to being needed when it comes to caring for babies in her family bc the parents lack basic parenting. Now she's always on my husbands business, 5 years in and I'm noticing my husband has mommy issues. His mom was very manipulative and was present but not hands on with them. Long story short she was rude to

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I discussed to my husband that when my child goes over to his parents or my parents; he's there so his grandparents can enjoy his company not for them to take care of him. Why did I say this? Because I noticed that both parties lack patience. So why would I put my child in uncomfortable situation, they're not bad grandparents but if you didn't parent your own children how can you do it with a grandchild, my husband knew that I work really hard for my son to not have screen time. Well, his grandma gave him the iPad before bed, my son comes home with dad the next day a complete feral child crying to watch something on the TV. I asked him if he has screen time with grandma and he said yes. He shared dad fell asleep and he slept with grandma and grandpa. I also shared with my husband that I don't like that. I don't want my child sleeping with anyone. My husband shares that my mil asked when he was going to visit____, another state. idk what she's thinking but we're not in financial place to be traveling, but that's non of her business. Not only that my husband cannot watch our kid all day and night. Like hell need some screen time. Literally, it takes a lot to not have screen time. Not only that but I have noticed that he allows our kid to walk behind him I parking lots, doesn't pack his essentials properly like water bottles etc. so why would I be okay with him taking our kid to another state with my MIL. Also, my mil gave my son gum, and when he was a young toddler they almost gave him peanuts like that little seed snacks.
Considering how pushy she is I messaged her and said the following, I also told her she's more than welcome to take my husband to her trip since my husband wants to be baby by her at his grown age and she wants to do what she didn't want to do before;

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First time Mum’s

What does everyone’s days look like?

For us it’s nappy, feed, cuddle, sleep (mostly contact naps). I still struggle to shower and eat when I’m on my own. We don’t go out anywhere other than the garden, and I don’t have the mental capacity to play with him very much (which I feel awful about). I’ve tried using a carrier to get things done around the house or to make my lunch, but I find it kills my back after 5/10 minutes. Losing the will to live 😣

Travelling with baby!

We’ve done many uk breaks but I know abroad will be a whole new world! Any tips, things that I should bring?! We’ve got a 2 hour flight at 8 months and a 9 hour at 11 months 🫠

Is anyone else freaking out about money? 🫠

My partner and I don’t have crazy high income’s as it is, I’m band 4 full time NHS and he’s band 3 full time NHS (increasing to 4 in a few months).
We’re viewing nurseries now and the cost of childcare is really hitting me.
I’m planing on taking 9 months mat leave, a month of KIT days (2 a week for 4 weeks) and then another month of annual leave, I’ll go back on 2 days a week so that I can work the 2 days he’ll be in nursery but I’m so scared about not earning enough.
Do people have really set plans for ensuring their income stays manageable?
Tips and tricks? 🥹

Is this normal?

Noticed these 2 white bits behind my daughter’s top teeth. They almost look like more teeth? As she is still a baby, she can’t communicate if it’s painful but can’t get a dentist appointment till end of july

Can my partner still help with the baba with a cold

New to parenting.
Partner come home with a runny nose and last night he had a cough so me and baby sleept in another room. Should he still help with caring I eas thinking of waiting for him to get better before asking him to still help like he does xx

Feeling defeated

So my husband and I kinda always has some opinions when it comes to our kids. We are a blended family. He has a son from his previous relationship, I have two from mine and we have three more kids together. When it comes to my girls and his son we always “fight” about it. When it comes to my daughters it’s like it’s the end of the world and he is very I’m not sure what word to use but it seems like there is a lot wrong when do stuff or if they do stuff he wants them to do he gets pissed, but when it comes to his son about anything it’s like he always has an excuse for him. Oh he’s a boy, it’s different. Like today I found out he didn’t have shampoo and he has been using “a bar body soap” to wash his hair. For like a month now…why not ask for some?? My husband said he did it and he is find to do it. Yes I get it short hair bad for my girls because it’s long. But every time it comes to his son it’s alright. Like idk what to do…I’m always stressed and he stays with us for a week at a time during the summer. I tell him he is 14 he can mow, well that’s his choice?? Then he tells me he should teach my girls to mow? I have so much to vent about…i feel alone…..