Seriously struggling

It's going to be okay. You are a good mama because you care and love your baby. I know it's hard, I have a 3 month old who cries constantly and some days I just want to scream cause I'm doing it alone... Sometimes they just need to be held. Just put aside everything you feel you need to do and sit and hold him. Praying for you and baby boy. You got this.

When my daughter went through this the things that helped were going outside and water play. Days that were really extremely hard I’d get us dressed (even with her kicking and screaming literally) and take her to a park to run around. The fresh air did us both so much good. Plus once we got there she’d eat a snack and food always helps. It’s such a difficult stage! My daughter is just over 2 and we definitely still have these days! It gets better though little by little. Keep trying, you’re doing great, you are an incredible mama who is just trying to survive right now. And that’s enough. 💕

It’s funny because what we perceive annoying behaviour is just them trying to communicate. They understand us SO WELL but they can’t always tell us what they want as clearly. These meltdowns (i find from my son) is that he just wants to do something else or we’ve stopped him from doing something he wants to do and he can’t tell us what he wants. We’ve found a few strategies that help:
- offer choice, don’t use yes or no questions
- we don’t say no or use negatives. Instead of “we don’t draw on the table” it’s “markers are for the paper, we colour on paper”.
- visuals to help show him what we mean. My son didn’t want his helmet for his bike. It spawned a 5 hour meltdown lol. So we showed him pictures of toddlers on bikes with helmets. Said “you have to wear your bike hat”. Lol but you’ll see these things in schools too. Like pictures of order washing hands … turn on water, wet hands, soap, etc.
- we have a doll that we do the thing to first. So we will change baby’s diaper and go