I don't get incognito posts that ask why someone chooses to do or not to do something if they are just going to close their ears and be judgemental

I will never understand why people post incognito on here asking why someone chooses to do something or not to do something... Or why they believe or don't believe in something if they are just going to judge everyone's answers like a twat. Why open it for discussion if you are just going to use it to judge anyway? Doesn't make sense. Yes some people post their kids others don't, yes some people don't... Some people believe in God and some don't, some people wean at 6 months and some don't, some people breastfeed and some don't... These are just some of the bs incognito posts lately being judgemental. Some of y'all need to pay attention to your own grass before pointing fingers because they are turning brown with your bullshit. News flash *gasp* people parent differently 😱 oh wow!!! Who knew?!?! Sarcasm

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Milton cold water sterilisation

I’m currently on holiday and using Milton cold water tablets to sterilise. How do I dry the bottles as I need to take some of the bottles out of the bucket to make room for my rapid cools. If I shake the bottles and they’re still a bit damp when putting together won’t that be an area of bacteria or mould to grow?

I have a bad feeling but I don't know what will happen.

My son is gonna be 3 soon. He is at his dads house at the moment. He has autism. When I called his dad to check on everything his dad seemed upset. His dad ignored me for almost a day until he finally responded. I have a bad feeling about something. Idk... i need advice. Idk if its just my anxiety or my mama instict kicking in or what.

first-time mama looking for someone who's been through this

Anonymous because I'm honestly terrified to post this under my own name. This is one of the hardest things I've ever had to admit out loud, and being this vulnerable is really scary. I'm afraid of being judged or misunderstood, but I'm hoping maybe someone else has been through something similar because I feel so alone.

I'm a first-time mama, and I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this postpartum.

During the day I mostly feel depressed, but at night it's completely different. After I get up with my baby to feed, burp, and change her, I can't fall back asleep even though I'm absolutely exhausted.

As I'm trying to fall asleep, my mind starts racing so fast it feels overwhelming. Then I start feeling like someone is standing in the room with me or outside the house. Sometimes it feels so real that I'm afraid to even look because it feels like they're getting closer. Once I check, I know no one is there, but in the moment it feels incredibly real and terrifying.

I've also had nights where I've heard things that weren't actually happening, and I've had episodes where it feels like bugs are crawling on my skin, in my hair, or even biting me, even though there's nothing there.

One of the scariest parts is that my mind starts making plan after plan after plan. I'll mentally think through what I'd do if someone broke in, how I'd get to her, where I'd hide her, how I'd protect her, and then I start making backup plans to those plans. It's like my brain becomes convinced that something is going to happen to my baby, even though I don't have any real reason to think that. I know it doesn't make sense, but in those moments it feels so real.

I saw my psychiatrist yesterday and was prescribed medication, but I haven't been able to start it yet. I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this postpartum. If you did, what did it end up being, and did it get better?

Please be kind. I'm trying my best, I love my baby more than anything, and this has been one of the scariest experiences of my life.

Won’t sleep, help😭

My usually good sleeper has woken up every night multiple times over the last week from 1/2am and there is nothing settling him😭 He wakes up crying so we go down, but he’s fine and lies there with his eyes open. Soon as we leave the room he’s hysterical again. There is literally nothing we do that works to get him back to sleep. Both my husband and I are shattered. He got HFM end of last week and it’s completely messed everything up. He’d finally made really good progress with his nursery settling last week and I just know this will have set him backwards as he doesn’t want a dummy for comfort and is fighting any sort of sleep. At our wits end now and don’t know what to do as he’s never done this before. I’m wondering if I need to keep him off nursery while he is so unsettled and is likely to struggle sleeping while there. My alarm goes off in less than 2hrs for work and he still hasn’t gone back to sleep😫😭

I just can't do this any more

I feel really concerned that my baby isn't born yet (34w) and I'm wondering every few days whether I should have ever tried to have kids. My whole body hurts and is uncomfortable, so much to do still after moving house 2 months ago, and i can only get 3-4 sleep a night for the past 2 months. I was about to fall asleep and baby started kicking so hard, I got annoyed and wished he wasn't kicking so I can fall asleep. Who would want the baby to not kick! That would be such a bad sign. I really dont know what will I do when he is actually born and freaking out regularly about this and about my sleep 😴😭😭😭

Tounge tie experiences

My baby is6 weeks old, we have a tounge tie appointment today…we were told at birth she had one but her only small, her latch sometimes is compromised and she does have bad reflux.. what are peoples experiences with getting it done or not getting it done? I’m worried as it’s private they’ll do it if it doesn’t need to be.