Am I wrong?

I’m 4 months pregnant. We went out to watch the game with his friends and he and I had plan at the end of the night to tell my parents about the pregnancy (don’t question this lol). He knew we had plans about this for the longest time.. he keeps pushing it and it’s so damn annoying. Then he got so drunk that day so I got annoyed. But then he got angry at me because I was annoyed at how he was drinking when he knew we had plans and I’m not going to let my bf talk to my
Parents while he’s drunk. Like no respect whatsoever. Then we got into a huge fight where he called me: “a fucking moron, a fucking bitch, cunt, a walking fucking idiot, and so on” the next day he explained why he understands I got disappointed but then went on about how he feels disappointed.. did not apologize for the way he spoke to me. I was super anxious, as we all know pregnancy is hard, the mood swings and emotions takes the best out of you. He yells and screams on the phone and I should’ve just left him. But I constantly called him because I was angry and wanted to solve things but he was a total prick about everything. Anyways he texted me this morning saying this, isn’t this just fucked up. Or am I wrong?

I will not clean his fucking place that’s for sure. Like wtf. I’m not your maid. You don’t treat me like a partner and you need this. I’m already going to be taking care of the kids so he’s just trying to be a jerk.

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66 times is a lot. If he was drunk nothing was going to get solved.
I’d leave him if I were you.

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66 times? lol you’re both out of control honestly. He definitely shouldn’t have called you names. Why are you living separate if you share kids and are together?

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Girl run and I pray you don’t have any other kids with him and if you do I pray that he’s not on the birth certificate Cuzz that sounds like hellllllllll I was in a DV relationship for 5 years 3 kids outta it god bless but I had to fawking go it don’t get better hun lil advice if this is your first don’t let him sign that fucing birth certificate Cuzz you gonna go threw bare bullshit

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…..girl. 66 phone calls?

This dude is obviously not worth 65 phone calls let alone 66 lmfao

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So he chose to get drunk, instead of being sober for the announcement for your child. Then called you, his pregnant partner who, probably isn’t in the most rational state, multiple disrespectful names due to not wanting to present him piss drunk to your family. The next day he doesn’t apologize but explains how he thinks hes the victim here. &Then you mildly harassed him, sure, trying to resolve the situation. So, instead of just being an adult and communicating he hangs up enough that it becomes 66 calls before you give up. And now you need to clean his place to continue to be a partner ?

Nope, hard pass. Leave while you can.

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Hmmmm well you did call a LOT how is that the worse you've done yet he can call you names like that??? That doesn't even compare lol and I'm sorry but clean HIS place because you called too much? He sounds like a douche bag!!!!! I'd say good bye 👋

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my sex life consists of him saying “should we have sex now?”, then we kiss for maybe 30 secs before he wants me to give him head or ride him. that lasts 3 mins max and its over, i pretend to finish because at this point its almost awkward. we’ve been together 2 years but sex life changed so much after baby its not even funnyyy.

his drive is lower than mine too, so this is a couple mins every 3ish days when i would be every day if i could. so i look forward to nothing lol help

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Whats a normal amount of times to have sex with your partner ?

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Would you leave or keep trying to work it out?

LONG POST - I've been married for 2 years and 8 months (been together for 9.5 years) and we have a 9 month old daughter. We went through a real rough patch around Xmas 2024 (drinking, being emotionally unavailable for 4+ years and it came to a head) and I was about to leave but found out i was pregnant. After loads of talking, we decided to work on things and life was great ... while I was pregnant and the first few weeks of having our daughter. Now he has just got worse over time and I'm debating leaving. Trouble is I don't want to hurt him or our daughter. Here are some of the things he's done in the last 6 or so months:
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