Toddler stage - struggling!!!

It's just toddlers unfortunately, you just have to ride it out. I've got 2 daughters that are 2 and nearly 7 months. It's absolutely exhausting and my daughter has got such an attitude, everything is no, everything is a fight and an argument, she's so strong willed too. I love them both to death but it is so so hard

We had to find strategies for adapting to our son. Toddlers are great at understanding us but not as good as explaining what they want. Just need to phrase things so they can tell you what they want better.
- give them choice. Don’t ask yes/no questions
- use positive language and avoid “no” and “don’t”. They don’t understand that. Instead of “don’t colour on the walls” it’s “we colour on this paper”
- visual anchor charts or images. Helps with routines and steps in procedures. You’ll see them at schools for instructions like washing hands. This shows toddler - first we put our shoes on, then our hat, then we can go outside etc
- our son has a doll that we change before him. He goes “baby turn!” And we *change their diaper* and then it’s “Austin’s turn!” We do this with food, clothing, bathing etc. Everything to the doll first lol

We find
- distractions like snacks or music
- moving rooms or going outside
Helpful but not consistent. The other ones have really changed our lives