Black teeth?

My 19 month old is very independent so I let her brush her own teeth and then I do a bit at the end against her will. There's some little specs of black on her teeth which can come off if I brush her teeth properly consistently but she hates it so much and I want her to not hate brushing her teeth whereas now she looks forward to it. Has anyone seen this before on their kids teeth? Is it normalish or is it bad?

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Birthday….

Would you be annoyed or am I being dramatic…

It’s my birthday today , 33!

Woke up this morning, no cards, presents or anything off my husband.

Kids come down stairs and go ‘ where’s the presents off dad ‘ I said ‘ I don’t know you’ll have to ask dad ‘

Anyways, nothings said, make lunches as usual and sort the kids

Gets to 8.15 am and he leaves for work and then goes ‘ oh btw happy birthday your cards should come today but you didn’t tell me what you wanted so I didn’t get you anything ‘

He’s then messaged with a screen shot with a load of computer stuff getting delivered today for his ‘ man cave’ and asking if I’ll be in.

Bare in mind this man had £30 left last night, asked him how he’s got the stuff for his PC ( I was meant to be buying most of it for his 30th next month) and he said he’s using his mates klarna and clearpay.

I’m not mad, just feel disappoint at zero effort has been made 😔

Seriously struggling

Currently crying in my car with my toddler in the back. He's not stopped crying, whinging, whining and tantrumming all morning. I am just overwhelmed...ive offered as many snacks as I can think of...set up activities so I can make breakfast but that wasn't good enough either. My ears are ringing and I just cant take anymore. Im a terrible mother. He's almost 2 and is in a phase where hes Just miserable about everything and we cant even go to playdates or groups anymore because he jusy cries and clings to me. Im trapped and alone.
Is this normal? I don't think it is

Would this offend you?

When I was days away from giving birth, my husband told me- I can’t remember how the topic came up- that his parents had once offered to adopt our baby if I didn’t want her.

I remember scoffing in disbelief and being offended, but dismissed it at the time as something very ill judged (this is when my relationship with them was fine).

For context, they are exceptionally overprotective of their son- who did not want our baby at all.

But now, a year on, having experienced a thousand moments of their entitlement of our baby it has been bothering me more and more. My husband gets angry at me every time I bring it up, claiming they were just being kind but it really offended me.

We live with them and they’ve intruded into every single thing they can. Broken every boundary and my FIL completely ignores my maternal autonomy in every way. And has become increasingly antagonistic as I try and get him to back off and respect my rules with my baby. He has gotten to the point where he snatches things out of my hands to give her instead- and lying to everybody else about having done that. All I get are comments about ‘how much he loves her’, ‘how wonderful it is that he gets to experience this’ after working abroad when his son was a baby. How he always wanted a girl. It makes me furious.

So it just keeps creeping back in. The adoption offer. When they knew I very very much wanted my baby, that I was very prepared for her and a capable person.

Would any of you be bothered by that? Or should I listen to my husband that it was a just in case, nice offer?

Nursery/ Child care

When did you start sending your baby to nursery?

Dad walking into my home after knocking and no answer, would you be ok with that?

Would you be annoyed if your parents just let themselves into your house?

My dad has done this twice this week once a few days ago when me and my boy was in the bath (luckily the bathroom door was closed) and again today when we was in the bedroom and I was feeding my boy.

He knocked but obviously no answer but he knew I would be in, I do tend to forget to lock my door but still doesn’t give the right to let himself in. He never gives me the heads up he’s popping over either.

We are close but I just still find it rude. I would never do that but maybe that’s just me..

But would you be annoyed or wouldn’t you be bothered?

Feeding every 2 hours

My 5 month old is still wanting to eat every 2 hours. Is this normal? We got the go ahead to start oatmeal and purees at his 4 month appointment and we have been, but I need him to start going longer between feeds. My oldest wasn't like this.