Potty training

Something I've noticed when it comes to potty training, is that when HV's give you advice or anyone else you ask they tend to forget the fact that not everyone sends their kids to nursery. So a lot of the advice given is just "3 days training, nursery takes 5 days, rinse and repeat."
And then I'm just sat here feeling like an idiot and overwhelmed wondering if my son is ready but he doesn't want to go back to nappies so I'm stuck doing this where I'm cleaning poop from underwear, pee of the floor well also dealing with a 4-month-old by myself, cook, clean, and feeling little sympathy from my husband who (tbf to him) his dad's terminal.

Did anyone else feel like this and do they have any tips they like to share. As I noticed one is at home he feels more comfortable to pee on the floor but when we're out he's more inclined to tell me that he needs to pee

Sorry rant one just feel so tired and exhausted😅

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How old is he? Have you tried making it exciting, like a game with a sticker chart reward system, and every time he goes to the potty you put a sticker on, once its filled up for that week, take him to the shops and let him pick something like a toy or his fave place. Lots of praising when at home, lots of reminding, take him to the potty every 30 minutes to get him used to it, i know you already have your hands full with a 4 month old, but if he tells you he needs to go when he's out then he's definitely ready, would it be easy if he was naked from the waist down whislt he's at home?

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Maybe start by completely butt naked with T-shirt that’s not too long to go into potty .
Start taking him every 45 minutes,then 1 hour without constantly pestering him to go.
It obviously depends on your child’s temperament,some learn within a few days to a week ,some takes to 2 weeks .
I just got through this tough week while heavily pregnant.
I personally didn’t do any rewards or games ,I just put music or gave him a book ,he quickly learned it .

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