Hello ladies,
6 months ago I was induced to have my son at 37 weeks due to getting gestational hypertension in the end of my pregnancy. I had a birth plan and while I know it’s called a plan because it doesn’t always work out the way we want. Pretty much none of my birth went the way I had envisioned and I’ll say I mourn that almost daily. I was induced and given cytotech to soften my cervix, then the foley balloon was inserted and tugged out after 2 attempts, and the pitocin started shortly after. Things were progressing really well and I was almost 5cm when I was asked if I wanted the epidural. I had pretty much planned on getting one but my pain was still quite manageable, so I wanted to wait. But I felt pressured and didn’t really have support during my delivery. The second I got that epidural I never made it past 5cm…I labored for 27 hours before the decision was made due to me contracting and infection that I needed to have an emergency c section as baby’s hr was spiked as well. To make matters worse I felt my c section happening. I’m not talking about a slight tugging and pulling. I’m talking about cutting and ripping and tearing….It’s been 6 months since then and I still think about it like I said daily. It traumatized me and made me mourn what I didn’t get with my baby. I wanted that immediate skin to skin on my chest and the golden hour after birth. I was wondering if any other moms experienced similar complications and/ or are feeling similarly? I am so grateful my son is alive and happy as am I, but can we just take a second to acknowledge things suck sometimes?
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Your story sounds almost identical to mine..minus feeling the surgery and I gave birth at 34 weeks and she spent 2 weeks in the NICU. My “baby” will be 2 years old in 2 weeks, and I will say that I still mourn the time and experiences lost, but also feel like it makes me appreciate all of the moments that have happened since even more than I would have otherwise.

Had a similar situation to the point where we almost didn’t make it and O had to get a blood transfusion and iron infusion before leaving. Had bad ppd in the hospital and couldn’t really breast feed my baby as long as I wanted. Legs and feet were swollen for weeks. My baby is about to be 6 months and even tho she’s thriving and I feel better than ever, I still think about how things didn’t go how I wanted except when I had the balloons in, my water broke on its own vs a doctor doing it. This is my second c-section and the worst of it. I felt they cutting and pulling and rearranging just to get her out and i was almost yelling at them that I could feel it and they ignored me but that’s bc by then I was critical. The anesthesiologist gave me something and it knocked me out temporarily I woke up to my baby crying and then stopping abruptly. The thoughts will never leave your mind but you do learn to cope. It gets better

I had an emergency section with my first after 48 hours of labour. I was induced due to leaking water for 2 weeks (i was 40+6) my epidural didnt work on one side so I could feel everything but couldnt move to get comfortable. Myself and my son were in distress so the decision was made after 1.5h pushing to have an emergency section. I felt so much but they didnt believe me, they said its normal to feel pulling and tugging but I felt burning and cutting ext it was so traumatic. Nearly 3 years later I had an emergency section after a failed vbac due to myself having bad anxiety 12 hours in and my daughters hr spiking. Again I felt so much pain and wasnt believed. My 3rd (6 years later) I had a planned section hoping it would go better but it was the same. And again I wasnt believed. Ive had tooth extractions and minor procedures requiring local and felt everything. It turns out I have a partial immunity to anesthetic. Its so traumatic and I never got my skin to skin either 💔

Honestly same. I prepared for the worse but i would have preferred to have a normal birth. I was induced at 39+6 due to having high blood pressure and swelling on left side (there was nothing wrong) i ended up having an emergency c section at 40+1 under general anaesthetic i only woke nearly 2 hrs after and i was so drained from not sleeping since before i was induced that recovery was hell. They broke my waters at 2cm after telling me i was 4. Then they told me i could push when i should have been. They wouldnt listen to me when i said that the epidural wasnt numbing me before my section ( when having the epidural i could still stand but feel no pain) the overall experience was pretty naff and honestly makes me sad seeing everyone having their baby straight after whether it was natural or a c section while awake. Also not knowing if my son was ok as in the booklet after which had all info on what happened it said required resussitation ( for my son). Nothing was said to me. 1/2

All i know was that the reason for the section was coz he was in distress. In my opinion i was okay and didnt need to be induced but because i was it was me that put my child in danger and thats ehat bothers me the most. Hes current 5 months and so far he is gud no real health issues that i know of 2/2

Mine was the same word for word. But just further along in weeks. I grieved it for a while. 3 years now and I healed well with a happy healthy child helps a lot. Sometimes I wonder if things could have been different. But at least they were not worse. Now more experience can make future things better. Every birth has challenges.