Claim child support or not?

My baby’s father abandoned us during my pregnancy. He has been asking if I will claim child maintenance. In my head, I’ve been thinking, 'Of course. That money is for the baby we planned, so I would not want to take that support away from her.'

BUT I’ve seen posts everywhere saying that a father is more likely to come back into your life and go to court to claim parental rights if you ask for child support. He has been hot and cold, emotionally abusive, and in and out of our lives.

I don’t want to deprive my child of a relationship with her father, but I need that relationship to be child-focused and consistent, not about punishing me. So, do I claim child maintenance or not?

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my sex life consists of him saying “should we have sex now?”, then we kiss for maybe 30 secs before he wants me to give him head or ride him. that lasts 3 mins max and its over, i pretend to finish because at this point its almost awkward. we’ve been together 2 years but sex life changed so much after baby its not even funnyyy.

his drive is lower than mine too, so this is a couple mins every 3ish days when i would be every day if i could. so i look forward to nothing lol help

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Whats a normal amount of times to have sex with your partner ?

Am I wrong?

I’m 4 months pregnant. We went out to watch the game with his friends and he and I had plan at the end of the night to tell my parents about the pregnancy (don’t question this lol). He knew we had plans about this for the longest time.. he keeps pushing it and it’s so damn annoying. Then he got so drunk that day so I got annoyed. But then he got angry at me because I was annoyed at how he was drinking when he knew we had plans and I’m not going to let my bf talk to my
Parents while he’s drunk. Like no respect whatsoever. Then we got into a huge fight where he called me: “a fucking moron, a fucking bitch, cunt, a walking fucking idiot, and so on” the next day he explained why he understands I got disappointed but then went on about how he feels disappointed.. did not apologize for the way he spoke to me. I was super anxious, as we all know pregnancy is hard, the mood swings and emotions takes the best out of you. He yells and screams on the phone and I should’ve just left him. But I constantly called him because I was angry and wanted to solve things but he was a total prick about everything. Anyways he texted me this morning saying this, isn’t this just fucked up. Or am I wrong?

I will not clean his fucking place that’s for sure. Like wtf. I’m not your maid. You don’t treat me like a partner and you need this. I’m already going to be taking care of the kids so he’s just trying to be a jerk.

Embarrassed

FTM and post partum. I have only ever used tampons so unsure of how to dispose of pads. I am wrapping them in toilet roll & then the cover of the next pad. However, I feel like my bathroom just stinks. I can't take them to the outside bin everytime I change my pad cos I have a baby. I empty the bin at the end of each day.

any tips?