Is this a lot of help?

Sometimes I don’t know if I’m ungrateful and I do have a lot of help with baby or if I am mostly doing it on my own.

Just me during work week and my brother will come every other weekend to take her on a walk/play with her. My mother in law may come once every few weeks for a couple hours to watch her, or if we go round to her she’ll play with her or make us food.

My mum may watch her once every couple weeks for a few hours as well or she’ll come round to our house and help us do a tidy up or the laundry.

Need to ask explicitly for this so I try not to ask too much as feel burdensome, but still grateful they do it when they can. Otherwise just me and baby and husband

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Im struggling

Im really struggling lately

I have a beautiful 1 year old little girl who brightens my day but I struggle everyday, I cant seem to keep on top of the house work, I worry about money as my partner has put himself into debt trying to get our house finished (its a fixer upper) we put so much energy and money into getting things finished for my daughters 1st birthday last month.

I dont work as i have bad issues and want to help financially but I dont know how to.

I rarely leave my house as I dont drive and I dont have anything close by, to get to places I'd have to get a bus which takes about 45-1 hour to get to anywhere 🙁

I have no friends, I thought i made some mummy friends but now i barely hesr from them except when I message first and I understand we all get busy with our babies and life. I just have no one to talk to, my partner works hard for us but when he comes home hes exhausted and most of the time just sits on his phone

I thought id be going to more baby groups and meeting up with other mums but there is literally nothing in my area, no coffee shops just houses and fields and i didnt think I would struggle this much.

We recently had to rehome our dog and that put a little bit of tension on our relationship as my partner misses our dog luckily we was able to rehome him to his mum so we still get to see him but my partner says almost everyday how he wants odin to come home but that cant happen.

I am getting to the point of I am not enjoying my life even though i have this beautiful little girl and want to start trying for another baby

I just dont know what to do anymore

Fun or Sin?

My husband and I have been together for 7 years now with a 4 year old kid. We have had good sexual chemistry together but for sometime we are feeling like losing the heat ....and so to warm it up we sometimes during sex take other people's names pretending we are with them. Like he's doing it with my friend or sis ...or m having sex with his best friend. I know this is not real and only during our love making. But now we do it very often as without that we do not get that level of excitement.

Though it's all fake but the names stay in mind. Like now when I meet his that best friend I feel awkward thinking what I and my husband do imagining his friend doing all that with me. I told this to my husband that this is wrong and we must stop this but now he saying, why stop this, instead let's make it real.

I am just shivering with the thought that he asked me to try a threesome with his friend or with my cousin. During sex I like the idea as this excites me and someway it helps me feel that prime of excitement. But then I feel guilty of thinking such things. It's sin of doing such things. But I am confused, if it's a fun or sin. Should I try this or stop thinking about other people . Please help.

How many of us have relatives nearby that consistsntly provide hands on help?

Not talking sending gifts or clothes in the mail, im talking about grandparents and other relatives that are close enough to drive and comes over to physically help care for the kids or cook a meal or help in your home some other way fairly consistently.

Anyone giving food to their baby yet ?

My in-laws are constantly telling me how I should be feeding my baby small amounts of food like purées but I’m not so sure about it. They’re always saying yea we fed our kids at a young age but I’m afraid it’s just too soon for my baby.

Is it all women or just me?!!

This is a vent post so I figured I’d hide out- my family and I leave tomorrow for a Fourth of July vacation. One that I am very much looking forward too, as it’ll be our first as a family of three now! That being said we have pets and had to hire a sitter for them, because the sitters will be staying here I was mortified to think they would be staying in my house all dirty. So, here I am up at 2am, no closer to going to bed while my husband sleeps soundly. His reasoning? He doesn’t think they will care if the house is dirty- and while he could be right, my mind immediately goes to the comfortability of a clean house. Imagine staying at a strangers house and it’s disgusting?!!! You’d be scared to touch ANYTHING, I don’t want anyone to feel that way in my house!! I was okay with cleaning, I just wish he had the same mindset as mine. To recognize that it is a kind gesture to ensure the person taking care of your fur babies has a clean place to sleep. And if not that- at least he could care about just having a clean house and wanting to help!! My aunt says not everyone is like me and that I was raised by a single mother who was a maid during my childhood, so of course a clean house is important to me. Meanwhile, he had a stay at home mom who was able to find the time to clean up after her kids. Am I overreacting or just turning into my mother 😂

When did you potty train your child .

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