Im struggling

Im really struggling lately

I have a beautiful 1 year old little girl who brightens my day but I struggle everyday, I cant seem to keep on top of the house work, I worry about money as my partner has put himself into debt trying to get our house finished (its a fixer upper) we put so much energy and money into getting things finished for my daughters 1st birthday last month.

I dont work as i have bad issues and want to help financially but I dont know how to.

I rarely leave my house as I dont drive and I dont have anything close by, to get to places I'd have to get a bus which takes about 45-1 hour to get to anywhere 🙁

I have no friends, I thought i made some mummy friends but now i barely hesr from them except when I message first and I understand we all get busy with our babies and life. I just have no one to talk to, my partner works hard for us but when he comes home hes exhausted and most of the time just sits on his phone

I thought id be going to more baby groups and meeting up with other mums but there is literally nothing in my area, no coffee shops just houses and fields and i didnt think I would struggle this much.

We recently had to rehome our dog and that put a little bit of tension on our relationship as my partner misses our dog luckily we was able to rehome him to his mum so we still get to see him but my partner says almost everyday how he wants odin to come home but that cant happen.

I am getting to the point of I am not enjoying my life even though i have this beautiful little girl and want to start trying for another baby

I just dont know what to do anymore

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I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

We just had a serious conversation about our marriage and him not pulling his weight with household chores but also not even helping out as much in caring for the baby. He turned it around to me saying he stepped back from us because of the disrespectful way I speak to him. SO HOLD ON YOU JUST DECIDED TO STOP BEING A HUSBAND AND A DAD BECAUSE YOU DIDNT LIKE THE WAY I SPOKE TO YOU A COUPLE OF TIMES OUT OF FRUSTRATION. GET THE F OUTTA HERE! Example is we were meeting him today after work and he went to the wrong place and I told him to hurry up please because I wanted to get home in time for LO's nap so our LO didn't get overtired. He took me saying hurry up as disrespectful because I didn't say please (I did he just conveniently didn't hear that). I did hang up the phone afterwards immediately as I was frustrated. I've lost so much respect for him and don't want to be with him tbh but I feel stuck. Like I don't even know how I would go about looking for another place for us to live and also not going to lie even though I'm basically a married single mum at least he used to participate in his fair share of care for our baby. He's just lazy and wants a maid. Am I being irrational?!

Im struggling

Black teeth?

My 19 month old is very independent so I let her brush her own teeth and then I do a bit at the end against her will. There's some little specs of black on her teeth which can come off if I brush her teeth properly consistently but she hates it so much and I want her to not hate brushing her teeth whereas now she looks forward to it. Has anyone seen this before on their kids teeth? Is it normalish or is it bad?

Difficult MIL situation

My MIL is quite selfish and high maintenance. I’m exhausted by her visits because she needs constant attention and feeding and entertaining… it feels like there is no downtime or space to be ourselves.
I have never got past small talk with her and she makes inappropriate comments about my body. Shes really rude and unkind to my partner, pretending it’s ‘banter’. She doesn’t help out in any way but requires a LOT from us. We have a toddler and a newborn now. She sent a card when baby was born but that’s all…she hasn’t messaged me to say congrats or how am I at all. Phone calls to my partner are the same 5 min convo about nothing they have every week. She has no idea how he is doing and has never been supportive or put him first.

She said she would visit to ‘give us a break’ which I’m dreading because it absolutely won’t be a break… I can’t face looking after her while we are already at breaking point. However, shes just gone and booked flights for an 8 day visit without asking us first. Even 24 hours feels like too much! My partner has negotiated it down to 3 days and I’m meant to be grateful for this. I’m not though, I’m absolutely raging that I will have to give up my bed whilst nursing a newborn for this woman who couldnt even ask how I was after I had our baby. And look after her too.
How much of this is postnatal exhaustion/ hormones etc speaking or am I justified in being really flipping angry? Also any tips for surviving the visit? I’ve got the feeling I won’t be able to hold my tongue this time if she is rude in any way

How many of us have relatives nearby that consistsntly provide hands on help?

Not talking sending gifts or clothes in the mail, im talking about grandparents and other relatives that are close enough to drive and comes over to physically help care for the kids or cook a meal or help in your home some other way fairly consistently.

Fun or Sin?

My husband and I have been together for 7 years now with a 4 year old kid. We have had good sexual chemistry together but for sometime we are feeling like losing the heat ....and so to warm it up we sometimes during sex take other people's names pretending we are with them. Like he's doing it with my friend or sis ...or m having sex with his best friend. I know this is not real and only during our love making. But now we do it very often as without that we do not get that level of excitement.

Though it's all fake but the names stay in mind. Like now when I meet his that best friend I feel awkward thinking what I and my husband do imagining his friend doing all that with me. I told this to my husband that this is wrong and we must stop this but now he saying, why stop this, instead let's make it real.

I am just shivering with the thought that he asked me to try a threesome with his friend or with my cousin. During sex I like the idea as this excites me and someway it helps me feel that prime of excitement. But then I feel guilty of thinking such things. It's sin of doing such things. But I am confused, if it's a fun or sin. Should I try this or stop thinking about other people . Please help.

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I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

Im struggling

Black teeth?

Difficult MIL situation

How many of us have relatives nearby that consistsntly provide hands on help?

Fun or Sin?