I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

We just had a serious conversation about our marriage and him not pulling his weight with household chores but also not even helping out as much in caring for the baby. He turned it around to me saying he stepped back from us because of the disrespectful way I speak to him. SO HOLD ON YOU JUST DECIDED TO STOP BEING A HUSBAND AND A DAD BECAUSE YOU DIDNT LIKE THE WAY I SPOKE TO YOU A COUPLE OF TIMES OUT OF FRUSTRATION. GET THE F OUTTA HERE! Example is we were meeting him today after work and he went to the wrong place and I told him to hurry up please because I wanted to get home in time for LO's nap so our LO didn't get overtired. He took me saying hurry up as disrespectful because I didn't say please (I did he just conveniently didn't hear that). I did hang up the phone afterwards immediately as I was frustrated. I've lost so much respect for him and don't want to be with him tbh but I feel stuck. Like I don't even know how I would go about looking for another place for us to live and also not going to lie even though I'm basically a married single mum at least he used to participate in his fair share of care for our baby. He's just lazy and wants a maid. Am I being irrational?!

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When I was days away from giving birth, my husband told me- I can’t remember how the topic came up- that his parents had once offered to adopt our baby if I didn’t want her.

I remember scoffing in disbelief and being offended, but dismissed it at the time as something very ill judged (this is when my relationship with them was fine).

For context, they are exceptionally overprotective of their son- who did not want our baby at all.

But now, a year on, having experienced a thousand moments of their entitlement of our baby it has been bothering me more and more. My husband gets angry at me every time I bring it up, claiming they were just being kind but it really offended me.

We live with them and they’ve intruded into every single thing they can. Broken every boundary and my FIL completely ignores my maternal autonomy in every way. And has become increasingly antagonistic as I try and get him to back off and respect my rules with my baby. He has gotten to the point where he snatches things out of my hands to give her instead- and lying to everybody else about having done that. All I get are comments about ‘how much he loves her’, ‘how wonderful it is that he gets to experience this’ after working abroad when his son was a baby. How he always wanted a girl. It makes me furious.

So it just keeps creeping back in. The adoption offer. When they knew I very very much wanted my baby, that I was very prepared for her and a capable person.

Would any of you be bothered by that? Or should I listen to my husband that it was a just in case, nice offer?

Nursery/ Child care

When did you start sending your baby to nursery?

Feeding every 2 hours

My 5 month old is still wanting to eat every 2 hours. Is this normal? We got the go ahead to start oatmeal and purees at his 4 month appointment and we have been, but I need him to start going longer between feeds. My oldest wasn't like this.

I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

If you work in retail- you spot a mother shoplifting. Do you stop her or ignore?

Recently a mother was allegedly stealing something from a store which resulted in her child being shot (that’s not the point but it’s context to why I thought about this question ) but in the comments of these posts people are saying : “if I was the worker I would of ignored the fact she was stealing” really defending her.

I come from a community that is known for “stealing” not all of us do it but some do whatever it is what it is. But if we walk into a shop we will get followed around. In videos about my culture where there’s a woman stealing and the comments are horrible and using racial slurs towards us

Why is there so many double standards in this world. Why is it ok to hate one race but not the other. Not the point of my question

If you saw a mother stealing would you stop her? Or would you take her race into consideration?

I’m just sick of this world :)

Toddler stage - struggling!!!

I honestly don’t know how much I can take!

He wakes up, he’s instantly crying, pissed off, throwing a fit, absolutely anything I do he has a melt down and throws himself on the floor constantly, always wanting held but also holding him is wrong?

I find myself yearning for naptime and bedtime and just the day to be over being I am SO DONE! I really try with my patience, I feel like I do quiet well but all day everytime, fking exhausting 😪 feeling like I’m a horrible mum for feeling like I can’t do it anymore and not wanting to give him a sibling because WHY would I want to go through this stage in another 2/3 years

I love him with my whole heart of course I do, but Christ he’s so difficult right now!

I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

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Nursery/ Child care

Feeding every 2 hours

I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

If you work in retail- you spot a mother shoplifting. Do you stop her or ignore?

Toddler stage - struggling!!!