If you work in retail- you spot a mother shoplifting. Do you stop her or ignore?

Recently a mother was allegedly stealing something from a store which resulted in her child being shot (that’s not the point but it’s context to why I thought about this question ) but in the comments of these posts people are saying : “if I was the worker I would of ignored the fact she was stealing” really defending her.

I come from a community that is known for “stealing” not all of us do it but some do whatever it is what it is. But if we walk into a shop we will get followed around. In videos about my culture where there’s a woman stealing and the comments are horrible and using racial slurs towards us

Why is there so many double standards in this world. Why is it ok to hate one race but not the other. Not the point of my question

If you saw a mother stealing would you stop her? Or would you take her race into consideration?

I’m just sick of this world :)

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For the amount you get paid in retail I wouldn’t be stopping anyone, especially mums. You see retail workers fighting shoplifters, that would never be me

Depends what she’s stealing. Milk/food/basic care, sure whatever. But I worked retail in an expensive chocolate shop for years and have seen them try to shove boxes of chocolates under their pushchairs and cover them up to steal. Now I’m not chasing anyone, but I am asking them to pay and pointing out that I have cctv 🤷‍♀️

I've stopped mums who were shoplifting before when I worked in retail. I wouldn't fight over it but at least if I interrupt they stop taking stuff and leave, and we know who to look out for next time. It's actually really common (in the UK at least) for people to come in with a pushchair to look more innocent/have the storage space. They're not putting formula under there, it's steak and vodka to then sell on. But my shop had no security, police don't give much of a shit and would be unlikely to arrive within 3-5 working days and obviously it's the UK so highly unlikely to end in someone being killed. If I was in the US I'm not sure I'd want to report anyone...

*holds door open* "have a lovely day ma'am"

I got caught in the carpark and questioned for shoplifting a Christmas turkey outside a supermarket. I’d brought it online and picked it up from the store and then done my Xmas food shop.
If it’s part of my job then yes but my safety comes first.

I would turn a blind eye. People don’t steal for no reason and if she or anyone needs it then leave them be. They know the consequences if they are caught and must be desperate to risk it so I wouldn’t add to that.

For me I notice on videos from US they focus on black/minority people and the comments are disgusting. Let’s just say when it’s a white person the comment section is calm.

in our community

Birthday….

Would you be annoyed or am I being dramatic…

It’s my birthday today , 33!

Woke up this morning, no cards, presents or anything off my husband.

Kids come down stairs and go ‘ where’s the presents off dad ‘ I said ‘ I don’t know you’ll have to ask dad ‘

Anyways, nothings said, make lunches as usual and sort the kids

Gets to 8.15 am and he leaves for work and then goes ‘ oh btw happy birthday your cards should come today but you didn’t tell me what you wanted so I didn’t get you anything ‘

He’s then messaged with a screen shot with a load of computer stuff getting delivered today for his ‘ man cave’ and asking if I’ll be in.

Bare in mind this man had £30 left last night, asked him how he’s got the stuff for his PC ( I was meant to be buying most of it for his 30th next month) and he said he’s using his mates klarna and clearpay.

I’m not mad, just feel disappoint at zero effort has been made 😔

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How is everyone managing this?

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