Is it all women or just me?!!

This is a vent post so I figured I’d hide out- my family and I leave tomorrow for a Fourth of July vacation. One that I am very much looking forward too, as it’ll be our first as a family of three now! That being said we have pets and had to hire a sitter for them, because the sitters will be staying here I was mortified to think they would be staying in my house all dirty. So, here I am up at 2am, no closer to going to bed while my husband sleeps soundly. His reasoning? He doesn’t think they will care if the house is dirty- and while he could be right, my mind immediately goes to the comfortability of a clean house. Imagine staying at a strangers house and it’s disgusting?!!! You’d be scared to touch ANYTHING, I don’t want anyone to feel that way in my house!! I was okay with cleaning, I just wish he had the same mindset as mine. To recognize that it is a kind gesture to ensure the person taking care of your fur babies has a clean place to sleep. And if not that- at least he could care about just having a clean house and wanting to help!! My aunt says not everyone is like me and that I was raised by a single mother who was a maid during my childhood, so of course a clean house is important to me. Meanwhile, he had a stay at home mom who was able to find the time to clean up after her kids. Am I overreacting or just turning into my mother 😂

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I am BIG mad at my husband 😡😡😡

We just had a serious conversation about our marriage and him not pulling his weight with household chores but also not even helping out as much in caring for the baby. He turned it around to me saying he stepped back from us because of the disrespectful way I speak to him. SO HOLD ON YOU JUST DECIDED TO STOP BEING A HUSBAND AND A DAD BECAUSE YOU DIDNT LIKE THE WAY I SPOKE TO YOU A COUPLE OF TIMES OUT OF FRUSTRATION. GET THE F OUTTA HERE! Example is we were meeting him today after work and he went to the wrong place and I told him to hurry up please because I wanted to get home in time for LO's nap so our LO didn't get overtired. He took me saying hurry up as disrespectful because I didn't say please (I did he just conveniently didn't hear that). I did hang up the phone afterwards immediately as I was frustrated. I've lost so much respect for him and don't want to be with him tbh but I feel stuck. Like I don't even know how I would go about looking for another place for us to live and also not going to lie even though I'm basically a married single mum at least he used to participate in his fair share of care for our baby. He's just lazy and wants a maid. Am I being irrational?!

Im struggling

Im really struggling lately

I have a beautiful 1 year old little girl who brightens my day but I struggle everyday, I cant seem to keep on top of the house work, I worry about money as my partner has put himself into debt trying to get our house finished (its a fixer upper) we put so much energy and money into getting things finished for my daughters 1st birthday last month.

I dont work as i have bad issues and want to help financially but I dont know how to.

I rarely leave my house as I dont drive and I dont have anything close by, to get to places I'd have to get a bus which takes about 45-1 hour to get to anywhere 🙁

I have no friends, I thought i made some mummy friends but now i barely hesr from them except when I message first and I understand we all get busy with our babies and life. I just have no one to talk to, my partner works hard for us but when he comes home hes exhausted and most of the time just sits on his phone

I thought id be going to more baby groups and meeting up with other mums but there is literally nothing in my area, no coffee shops just houses and fields and i didnt think I would struggle this much.

We recently had to rehome our dog and that put a little bit of tension on our relationship as my partner misses our dog luckily we was able to rehome him to his mum so we still get to see him but my partner says almost everyday how he wants odin to come home but that cant happen.

I am getting to the point of I am not enjoying my life even though i have this beautiful little girl and want to start trying for another baby

I just dont know what to do anymore

Fun or Sin?

My husband and I have been together for 7 years now with a 4 year old kid. We have had good sexual chemistry together but for sometime we are feeling like losing the heat ....and so to warm it up we sometimes during sex take other people's names pretending we are with them. Like he's doing it with my friend or sis ...or m having sex with his best friend. I know this is not real and only during our love making. But now we do it very often as without that we do not get that level of excitement.

Though it's all fake but the names stay in mind. Like now when I meet his that best friend I feel awkward thinking what I and my husband do imagining his friend doing all that with me. I told this to my husband that this is wrong and we must stop this but now he saying, why stop this, instead let's make it real.

I am just shivering with the thought that he asked me to try a threesome with his friend or with my cousin. During sex I like the idea as this excites me and someway it helps me feel that prime of excitement. But then I feel guilty of thinking such things. It's sin of doing such things. But I am confused, if it's a fun or sin. Should I try this or stop thinking about other people . Please help.

How many of us have relatives nearby that consistsntly provide hands on help?

Not talking sending gifts or clothes in the mail, im talking about grandparents and other relatives that are close enough to drive and comes over to physically help care for the kids or cook a meal or help in your home some other way fairly consistently.

Potty training

Something I've noticed when it comes to potty training, is that when HV's give you advice or anyone else you ask they tend to forget the fact that not everyone sends their kids to nursery. So a lot of the advice given is just "3 days training, nursery takes 5 days, rinse and repeat."
And then I'm just sat here feeling like an idiot and overwhelmed wondering if my son is ready but he doesn't want to go back to nappies so I'm stuck doing this where I'm cleaning poop from underwear, pee of the floor well also dealing with a 4-month-old by myself, cook, clean, and feeling little sympathy from my husband who (tbf to him) his dad's terminal.

Did anyone else feel like this and do they have any tips they like to share. As I noticed one is at home he feels more comfortable to pee on the floor but when we're out he's more inclined to tell me that he needs to pee

Sorry rant one just feel so tired and exhausted😅

Desperate

Please, please share all the potty training tips you have! My son understands to do wees on the potty and same for poo but like today, he was holding it. I would then sit him down, he would scream and cry at me, get off and wee on the floor then say "Look, wee wee on the floor."

He is 26 months and I feel like he knows what he's doing but I can't keep doing this. I'm exhausted and need help