To the dads in our lives with a SAHM

I get it now. The insane financial pressure and fear, the agonizing ache of missing your kids and told it is what it is suck it up, the being completely exhausted from work and coming home and having to pretend you are fresh and ready to go, the immense shame and guilt for missing so much of your kids lives, the shame and guilt of watching your partner struggle and not be able to support them the way you want to because of your work, I get it now.

I know we talk a lot of shit about how lazy, selfish, and annoying working dads on here, but they deserve some credit too. Atleast moms get to complain about it. The dads have to keep it bottled up and constantly pretend everything is fine when they are drowning and there's no help coming

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This resonates deeply! I super appreciate my man and all he’s doing

I very much appreciate my husband and how hard he works. I don't expect him to magically revive the second he gets home and take over so that I don't have to do anything. I don't think many SAHMs do tbh. Many are just asking for the bare minimum so they aren't eternally burnt out. I don't need to ask, because my husband respects and appreciates what I'm doing as well and committed to being an active and present parent. When you have kids you sacrifice a certain amount of free time, commit to raise a child with your partner, and whilst it's hard to truly understand before the kids come plenty of men pretend like they're doing their partner a favour if they change a nappy. That's the sort of person some SAHMs are (justifiably) complaining about. I've never seen one complaining whose partner actually contributes to the home.

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Honey in stir fry

My baby is 10 months old tomorrow and was accidentally given honey soy flavoured pieces of steak in a stir fry. I know not to give honey under 1 but didn’t realise the flavour packaging was honey soy and I feel so guilty!

Should I be worried? What should I look out for?

Is this a lot of help?

Sometimes I don’t know if I’m ungrateful and I do have a lot of help with baby or if I am mostly doing it on my own.

Just me during work week and my brother will come every other weekend to take her on a walk/play with her. My mother in law may come once every few weeks for a couple hours to watch her, or if we go round to her she’ll play with her or make us food.

My mum may watch her once every couple weeks for a few hours as well or she’ll come round to our house and help us do a tidy up or the laundry.

Need to ask explicitly for this so I try not to ask too much as feel burdensome, but still grateful they do it when they can. Otherwise just me and baby and husband

Who’s guilty?

So I was washing the dishes in my kitchen, and I have a window right in front of me. ( it’s a zebra curtain so it stays up for some light).
Anyway, as I am washing I looked out to see someone staring at me. So I started staring back, and then looked away ( as I finished washing). I then went back few mins later to wash more bowls as my kids finished eating. And looked outside and she’s passing and staring at me again! To the point she’s walking away, and turning her head back to stare and this time giving me dirts??

How to put weight on a toddler

So I have a very active 16-17 month toddler, he eats 3 meals and snacks but he has twice been technically underweight by the baby nurse, he is in 9-12 months cause they fit him and anything older is way too big, so any tips or advice would be helpful, he is very active from morning till bedtime

Would you be upset?

Typically my husband gets up and leaves for work before me and the kids are awake but I’m pretty sure he usually leaves our house around 6:30. The place he works at is about a 35 minute drive and opens at 8 but he goes in a bit early and starts at 7:30. This morning me and the kids were up at 5, he left for work at 6 so he was there and hour before his early clock in time.

Idk I just have been feeling lately like he doesn’t actually enjoy spending time with us and it’s honestly been making me sad.

University

Has anyone completed a masters whilst having a 1 year old? Or baby of similar age. Thinking of returning to uni, not sure if it’s a good idea…