Anyone else’s husband/partner giving them the ick right now??

My son is 9 weeks old and is our second child - hubby is very supportive and is great with our toddler. The past few weeks however I’m finding that little things my husband do are starting to get on my nerves so much such as, being in the bathroom for so long or always being on his phone and distracted. I think some of it is resentment as he seems to just mindlessly cruise through the days whereas I have to ask if I can have shower and am constantly thinking about the children’s needs.

We’ve yet to have sex since the birth and I know he is eagerly waiting for me to be ready but right now I just don’t want to with the way he’s being. Like I’m just not attracted to him currently… It’s our 10 year anniversary in August and I keep asking about doing something special like going away for the weekend as I’d love for him to show a bit of romance but he just dismisses it saying it’ll cost too much.

Im guessing this will pass but wanted to see if anyone else is feeling the same?

in our community

Who’s guilty?

So I was washing the dishes in my kitchen, and I have a window right in front of me. ( it’s a zebra curtain so it stays up for some light).
Anyway, as I am washing I looked out to see someone staring at me. So I started staring back, and then looked away ( as I finished washing). I then went back few mins later to wash more bowls as my kids finished eating. And looked outside and she’s passing and staring at me again! To the point she’s walking away, and turning her head back to stare and this time giving me dirts??

Hubby is great but...good at tricking

My husband is a really great guy. All of my friends and family also think so.
However, some days I notice how good he is at lying and tricking- which is a "skill" he openly admitted to.
Today, he told our toddler "Finish your dinner, then you can have ice cream" (I strongly disapprove with the method but that's a different story).
Then after dinner, he denied him ice cream. He said he never promised him anything, he simply said he could. I find that super manipulative and when I talked to him in private, he just went round and round in circles saying that no promise was ever made.
That makes me think of how easy it would be for him to lie to me, without technically lying.
I trust him with my whole life and believe he never would, but this ice cream situation and the deception skills he showed really creeped me out.
I'm spiralling a little! Would you feel the same or am I blowing this up?
Have you ever dealt with a good liar and if so, do you have any tips?

Would you be upset?

Typically my husband gets up and leaves for work before me and the kids are awake but I’m pretty sure he usually leaves our house around 6:30. The place he works at is about a 35 minute drive and opens at 8 but he goes in a bit early and starts at 7:30. This morning me and the kids were up at 5, he left for work at 6 so he was there and hour before his early clock in time.

Idk I just have been feeling lately like he doesn’t actually enjoy spending time with us and it’s honestly been making me sad.

Brother getting married - husband issues!

So my little brother is getting married. No children are allowed at the wedding. My baby will be 11 months old. I exclusively breastfeed. The wedding is an hour away and starts at 2:30pm.
The wedding is a small, intimate family gathering.

My brother has offered for his friend (a nursery worker) to look after the 3 children (ranging from 11 months to 3.5 years) in his apartment whilst the wedding is happening.

My husband says “no, this will absolutely not be happening, I will be looking after our child”

My husband said he will miss the wedding and look after our dog and baby. I asked that we could book a hotel room in the city for that night so that I could back to our baby as soon as possible (7-7:30pm). And my husband said “no, we are not staying in that sh@tholee city overnight when we could be at home”.

I think he is being ridiculous. I want to attend my brother’s wedding. I want to stay in a hotel in that city so we can all relax and have a good time.

For context the city is not a sh”thole and is quite popular in the UK. My baby will be without me for 6 hours or so. He will be starting nursery a week later.

Is my husband being unreasonable?

How to put weight on a toddler

So I have a very active 16-17 month toddler, he eats 3 meals and snacks but he has twice been technically underweight by the baby nurse, he is in 9-12 months cause they fit him and anything older is way too big, so any tips or advice would be helpful, he is very active from morning till bedtime

University

Has anyone completed a masters whilst having a 1 year old? Or baby of similar age. Thinking of returning to uni, not sure if it’s a good idea…