Am I being selfish?

So sorry for your loss. I dont think it's selfish at all. Bringing the baby will just add so much more stress and emotion to an already emotional day. In the nicest possible way, it wont be your mum looking after the baby it will be you so youre well within your rights to say no. You have childcare sorted so absolutely spend that day looking after YOU and only you and allow yourself the time to start the grieving process xx

My condolences!! I think if you want to go alone you should. However, I had my grandads funeral last month and took my lg as it helped give everyone a boost of joy at the wake. My partner wasn’t able to come so I had to sit out of the service but maybe your partner can be outside during the service with the baby? I do agree that the journey is tough especially in this heat though and would have probably left her with her dad for the day if I had the option to, what would your grandmother want for you? X

If you don’t wanna take her then don’t! You have every right to grieve your grandma!

When my grandpa died, my dad really wanted my baby niece to be there. It helped distract him and make him happy in such a dark time. So I understand your mom wanting the baby there too.

Ultimately you do what is best for you

Its not selfish at all i personally made the decision to take my son to my mums funeral when he was a similar age but I also completely understand why you wouldn’t want to especially with all the travel, you deserve to greave in the way that you feel most suits you fir me that was taking my son but if you feel it will make it harder then definitely leave her at home x

You have to make the decision that’s right for you. 🩶 No one else can tell you what you should or shouldn’t do and make you feel bad for whatever decision you go with. My children came with me to my mum’s funeral, but they were older. If you feel you need some time to yourself so you can fully process the day and be present at the funeral then thats okay. Whatever you decide, it should be what feels right for you and your family. I hope you work it out 🩶✨

My grandma's funeral was a few months ago, and I also chose to leave my kids home with their dad. I wanted to focus on saying goodbye to my grandma, not spend the whole time worrying about my kids.