Feeling like a terrible mother

After my son’s swim lesson I got him Burger King. While waiting in the drive-thru he told me he spilled his yogurt. I just closed my eyes and told him to put the cap back on and wait for me to get his food. I pulled to the parking lot and opened and I scanned everything he spilled and just said to him we’re going home and I’ll clean you there and I shut the door a little hard. On our way home I started realizing how bad I reacted, and was looking at him through the rear view mirror and his sad face. I park in the house and opened his door again and told him everything was okay I was gonna clean it and gave him a kiss in his forehead. Idk why I reached like that, I wasn’t even mad at him nor the spilled yogurt because I wiped it quick. Just thinking about his sad little face makes me cry😢.

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I’ve been there 💜 it hurts our mama hearts so much but it sounds like you had repair with him. It’ll happen again, and you’ll get another chance to respond the way you want to.

That's pretty tame I feel like. Everyone is allowed to be frustrated whether that upsets someone else or not. If you think you were out of lime, all you have to do is apologize and move on. I doubt he's even thinking about it now. Try not to ruminate on it.

This is where I show them what an apology should look like while also explaining our feelings & why it wasn’t right for me to take out my frustration on them. I promise you if you do this it really pays off, it won’t help them if you hide behind being an adult or try to make them forget it happened. I have a 17y & 5y, these teenager years have been a blast for me & hubs, yet almost everyone we know is always complaining about their teens, but when ours goes through one of his hormone fluctuations he actually apologizes & I’m in perimenopause, plus I was also pregnant 5yrs ago, & we actually call each other on those hormonal mood swings so we can adjust our behavior. It’s way more tolerable when you work together to help each other be better humans.

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Hubby is great but...good at tricking

My husband is a really great guy. All of my friends and family also think so.
However, some days I notice how good he is at lying and tricking- which is a "skill" he openly admitted to.
Today, he told our toddler "Finish your dinner, then you can have ice cream" (I strongly disapprove with the method but that's a different story).
Then after dinner, he denied him ice cream. He said he never promised him anything, he simply said he could. I find that super manipulative and when I talked to him in private, he just went round and round in circles saying that no promise was ever made.
That makes me think of how easy it would be for him to lie to me, without technically lying.
I trust him with my whole life and believe he never would, but this ice cream situation and the deception skills he showed really creeped me out.
I'm spiralling a little! Would you feel the same or am I blowing this up?
Have you ever dealt with a good liar and if so, do you have any tips?

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The wedding is a small, intimate family gathering.

My brother has offered for his friend (a nursery worker) to look after the 3 children (ranging from 11 months to 3.5 years) in his apartment whilst the wedding is happening.

My husband says “no, this will absolutely not be happening, I will be looking after our child”

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