Why do I feel like a single mum when I’m not

Since my baby was born I’ve been pulling all the work, I don’t mind to do a bit extra but my husband works from home which means he can help more. When we met we talked about that he will be an involved father but I feel like I always do everything, every feed, every nap and every bed time my baby is nearly 9 months. Also he always moans how tired he is and yesterday I pulled a 15 hour shift looking after our daughter and he didn’t do anything I’m exhausted mentally, physically and under appreciated .

I don’t know how long I can go on.

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Brother getting married - husband issues!

So my little brother is getting married. No children are allowed at the wedding. My baby will be 11 months old. I exclusively breastfeed. The wedding is an hour away and starts at 2:30pm.
The wedding is a small, intimate family gathering.

My brother has offered for his friend (a nursery worker) to look after the 3 children (ranging from 11 months to 3.5 years) in his apartment whilst the wedding is happening.

My husband says “no, this will absolutely not be happening, I will be looking after our child”

My husband said he will miss the wedding and look after our dog and baby. I asked that we could book a hotel room in the city for that night so that I could back to our baby as soon as possible (7-7:30pm). And my husband said “no, we are not staying in that sh@tholee city overnight when we could be at home”.

I think he is being ridiculous. I want to attend my brother’s wedding. I want to stay in a hotel in that city so we can all relax and have a good time.

For context the city is not a sh”thole and is quite popular in the UK. My baby will be without me for 6 hours or so. He will be starting nursery a week later.

Is my husband being unreasonable?

Am I being selfish?

I could really use some outside opinions because I’m feeling so torn.

My grandma’s funeral is on Friday, and it’s a 3½-hour journey each way. I have an 8-month-old baby, and my ex-partner (who I still live with) has offered to stay home and look after her.

I really wanted to go to the funeral on my own so I could just be a granddaughter for the day and grieve properly. I love my daughter more than anything, but I know I’d spend the whole day worrying about bottles, three meals, naps, packing everything, and keeping her settled after a 7 hour round trip on public transport.

My mum wants me to bring my baby (and my ex) because not much of our immediate family will be there, and she wants my Grandma to have as much family present as possible. She feels really strongly about it, and thinks I’m being lazy and selfish and now I feel incredibly guilty.

Am I being selfish for wanting to leave my baby with her dad for the day so I can say goodbye to my grandma properly? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m feeling so overwhelmed.

Parenting differences

My son has a receding hairline. In the two corners, it’s already kind of bald. He’s 8 by the way. His trajectory leads him to likely go bald early, due to his dad, grandpa, and so on being bald. He complained about it one day and I told him it’s ok, gave him encouragement, and showed him what to do to cover it. He has a tiny fro. Additionally, I have one small bald spot near my hairline as well. I said something along the lines of, I have a spot too and I’ve never had hair right there and how it’s perfectly ok.

For whatever reason, the conversation just came up about it, and my fiance said that I’m wrong for telling him about my spot too because I’m essentially saying, “your hair is f****d up and mine is too”. Instead, he said I should have only tried to build his confidence, which I did do, but I also did not want him to feel alone. Do you all think there was something wrong with what I did/said to my son?

Anyone else’s husband/partner giving them the ick right now??

My son is 9 weeks old and is our second child - hubby is very supportive and is great with our toddler. The past few weeks however I’m finding that little things my husband do are starting to get on my nerves so much such as, being in the bathroom for so long or always being on his phone and distracted. I think some of it is resentment as he seems to just mindlessly cruise through the days whereas I have to ask if I can have shower and am constantly thinking about the children’s needs.

We’ve yet to have sex since the birth and I know he is eagerly waiting for me to be ready but right now I just don’t want to with the way he’s being. Like I’m just not attracted to him currently… It’s our 10 year anniversary in August and I keep asking about doing something special like going away for the weekend as I’d love for him to show a bit of romance but he just dismisses it saying it’ll cost too much.

Im guessing this will pass but wanted to see if anyone else is feeling the same?

Need some advice

I have a 4 year old son who is currently enrolled in soccer camp. So far he has attended 2 days, the first day he said he didnt like it because he was sweating a lot, and the second day another slightly older child was mean to my son. My son told me he doesnt like soccer camp because ita scary and he told me he had a bad dream about soccer camp and the little boy who was mean to him. I talk to my in laws about it, they think he needs to finish the camp to face his fears. Even thought I slightly agreed, indont know if my heart can take seeing him so anxious and unhappy. What should I do? Should I make him finish it? Or pull him out all together?

I am so angry!!!!

So Mr 5 done this yesterday in a fit of rage! Its a brand new $1200 TV. So of course I sent him for a time out as I was fuming i could of smacked him (i know thst wouldn't have solved anything) and then he trashed his room ill add photos of that in the comments. Though he is becoming out of control and I cant punishment him because every time I do have either puts holes in the walls, breaks things and attacks myself or his siblings.