Am I the asshole???

I have family in town for my son’s birthday. Last night we all went out to dinner, including my son. My bd calls me while we’re at dinner, i missed the first call and called him back (mind you, we’re still at the restaurant and i think it’s lowkey disrespectful to be otp at the dinner table). But i called him back cause I figured he wanted to talk with our son before we head home and he has to go to sleep. He answers the phone and i notice he had a look on his face, so i asked what’s the deal, why you got that look on your face? As if i did something wrong and he said he tried calling like 3-4 times within the last hour (horrible signal at the restaurant) and why the fuck do i have an attitude with him. 🙄 i hung up the phone and he threatened me through text messages saying I’m being suspect and how I just fucked up?? Literally turned a misunderstanding into a whole thing because I didn’t get his other phone calls. I told him earlier in the day that we were all going out to eat. Honestly he gets so offended when things don’t go his way or when I don’t immediately answer the phone. I shouldn’t even have to explain myself to him but I texted him afterwards and sent him a screenshot of my call log and told him I don’t appreciate him cursing at me and disrespecting while I’m at dinner with my family. It was honestly so embarrassing. I always make time for him and try to include him in things but it’s not my problem that he has to work and that I didn’t get the other calls. He chooses to punish me and say hurtful things when something doesn’t go his way and our son’s birthday is literally tomorrow. So of course he’s going to be spiteful and ignore me over a misunderstanding. I just don’t have time for it. My son deserves to enjoy his second birthday in peace and I already have so much going on personally…

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Why do I feel like a single mum when I’m not

Since my baby was born I’ve been pulling all the work, I don’t mind to do a bit extra but my husband works from home which means he can help more. When we met we talked about that he will be an involved father but I feel like I always do everything, every feed, every nap and every bed time my baby is nearly 9 months. Also he always moans how tired he is and yesterday I pulled a 15 hour shift looking after our daughter and he didn’t do anything I’m exhausted mentally, physically and under appreciated .

I don’t know how long I can go on.

What do you do when you don't think a child is good to hang around with?

So my 3 year old has a friend who likes to lie/ get him in trouble / aggregate him etc etc. I feel she bring out the worst in him. He's much calmer around all other friends. I'm sick and tired of defending him and have no fun on these play dates. I find the mom extremely hard work and she thinks her kid is never in the wrong.

Mother in law

My mother in law is due to stay with us from tomorrow for a week or so.
There's an event that I've been excited about for a month now that we can do as a family (mum, dad and baby)
I don't particularly want my mother in law to come with us because I just want it to be a family thing we do as we don't do too much as a family of three.
Am I wrong to be thinking like that or asking my husband?

Would you rather a WFH husband or one that works from the office/out of the house?

I love my husband but he works from home, the last 9 months we’ve been at home together with the baby and I am sorry to admit that I am kind of sick of the sight of his face and the sound of his voice!!! I love him but I feel like I just need a degree of separation and space!! I used to go to work every day full time so we would only be together on evenings and weekends… this much time together is too much!

Boyfriends parents are coming tomorrow

Stressed mom of 2.

My house is a disaster as we moved in back in March. I finally got the 2nd bedroom cleaned up a bit and swapped the frame so they can sleep comfortably but its not done.
Boyfriend cooked tonight but didn't wash the dishes or wipe the counters as he usually waits until the next day.
Living room has a path to get to the couch and to the rest of the house. Downstairs bathroom still has clothes on the floor. Do I clean what I can before my 3 yr old goes to sleep while my 5 month old sleeps or just leave it a mess? Boyfriend says his parents can take care of the kids while I clean tomorrow. Its almost 2am now

Feeling like a failing mother

I don’t really know how to say this without sounding silly, but I just wondered if anyone else is finding it really, really hard at the moment?

I’ve got a 2 year old and a 7 month old, and my partner is working all the time so I’m on my own with them most days. Some days I look around and feel like I’m failing at everything—like the house is never clean enough, I’m always rushing, and I feel so lonely even though I’m never actually by myself.

And honestly? Money is so tight right now I don’t know how we’re going to get through the next week. We’ve barely any food left for the little ones, and nothing coming in until the 9th. I feel awful admitting it, like I should be managing better somehow.

Just wondered if anyone else is in the same boat, or if it really is just me struggling this much lately? 💛