Does anyone really know they’re done?

Anyone have a burning desire for another and not do it? Does it get better? Do you accept it? Do you regret it? It’s probably not going to happen for me for multiple reasons. My husband is 40 and doesn’t want more, don’t blame him (but I’m only 34). I’m 15 months postpartum and had two 15 months apart. My cycles are regular, but I have a luteal phase defect now, so unless I supplement progesterone, there’s no letting Jesus take the wheel and if it happens it happens. I feel like I’m grieving. I would love to have one more, but I don’t think it’s in the cards for me. How do I accept this?

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We are having our second in October and agreed that it’s our last. We don’t want to be ‘outnumbered’ also we feel like we are getting old 41 and 31 😅 but I’m still on the fence about getting tubes tied or him snipped, it just feels so final and what if we change our minds? Pretty sure we won’t but never know. 😭 such a hard decision!

I’ll be honest, I knew about 30 seconds after my 2nd was born I was done😅 I always pictured us with 2 and I have a little boy and girl so I feel completely done and can’t see that ever changing for me x

Mine is 7mo im a 1 and done. Have said that since pregnancy. Tbh, I never wanted kids and would have had a hysterectomy at 21 if I had the chance but I love her dearly. This shit is too hard to do again tbh hahaha

My mom had 7. 5 earth side 2 miscarriages. But after the last she knew she was down for sure. I’m pregnant with my 3rd and I can’t imagine we will be done. I think we will have 4 but who knows if we will want more until the time comes

I’m done. I knew it the moment I held my son. I finally got to the end and held a baby for the first time

I have no desire for more. The stress and anxiety I felt when pregnant I never want to feel again

I have a feeling my heart and body will always want more but my brain will be the one to say no. Financially, space, quality time with them all, difficulty traveling etc etc. We don’t have a village, so realistically 2-3 is probably all we can handle. But I know I’ll always want more deep down.

My husband is 43 and I’m 34. We have a 15 month old. He was firmly one and done so he got snipped when our son was about 10 months old. I felt a little sad to be closing that chapter, but I also fully believe it’s the right choice for us.

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