Do you feel as though you should tell your partner…

I mean, he does pick up on things. But hes also not a mind reader, and neither am I. Communication is so extremely important for this reason.

People who make assumptions about what people do and don’t know are always going to be disappointed

My husband always wants me to tell him why I'm upset but all he usually needs to do is look around. I'm looking at the messy house and screaming children all of while is on my shoulders whereas these things just don't affect him. He'll stuff a paci in our daughters mouth when she's clearly hungry, won't check the app to see if it's time for a feed and when she last ate. Makes our 20 month old tell him what he wants and he's just learning to speak. I want him to use his words but I can read him so well. He points to, signs or says what he wants

I’m learning it’s very important to express your needs, expectations, desires and wants. Everyone has different needs/wants. I feel men or some people need to be told more than some others — which ultimately is isn’t a great feeling because we can feel like that should be a given with those who love us and know us most, at least you’d hope. Especially learning men need you to tell them pretty much everything lol. They’re pretty oblivious to our emotional needs if you don’t explain it to them

Communication is everything. We can *usually* read each other fairly well after almost 9 years together, but we're not mind readers, and most of what we *can* read is because of all the times we've had actual talks.
After a handful of rough patches we're super intentional about communicating wants and needs, and especially about things we're upset about.
We also specifically talk about our communication styles and how we can improve them; he tends to be fairly reactive due to childhood abuse and life trauma, and I get really withdrawn when things get heated, likely due to a history of emotional neglect. That was a pretty big hurdle for us, and we likely wouldn't have gotten past it if we didn't *talk* about our wants and needs.

We’re only human, let him know how you’re feeling with a few examples. Even a few reminders are needed. After this and you’re still being ignored, then that’s a problem.

We are both neurodivergent, picking up on subtlety and hints is not our strongsuit lol. Dirrect communication or we dont know

I prefer straight up communication i try to keep my mouth shut but cant lol so he will know alright exactly about how i feel what i feel