My best friend is a SAHM with two older children, and I’m a working mom with an older child and a newborn. I’m on maternity leave right now, and my friend keeps asking me to come hang out but I’m not really sure how to politely explain that I really don’t want to go hang out at her house. I’m trying to enjoy my time at home for as long as I have it, and it’s also just in general a really big hassle to have to pack up my newborn and go sit at someone else’s house for the day. I feel like it’s a little bit unfair that she hasn’t really come to our place at all, when she’s even got live-in child care if she needed it. I don’t want to come off rude or snippy, but doesn’t it make more sense that the person with the newborn shouldn’t have to do all the traveling? For the record, the last time we hung out I did go to her house.
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You can do this really easily.
“Hey! I’m not up for going anywhere but you’re always welcome here!”

It doesn’t have to be about your newborn or her available childcare. You don’t need an excuse to not want to leave

To ask someone to pack up their newborn will always baffle me

What others have said. Plus she has been through it herself so should understand.