Boundaries around porn

So if you don't like porn in a relationship and you told your partner it was a boundary, would you want or expect them to delete their porn collection? Would you want or expect them to show you they had done so or is them saying that they will enough?

Would there being a history with his phone change anything?

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Want not expect. If they like to watch porn and you don’t like that, then yall are not compatible. If it’s something that’s not a big deal to them and they are able to cut it out then that’s wonderful. But expecting them to change that based on your preferences should never be the case. Just find someone who doesn’t like porn more than they like you.

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