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Would you be weirded out?

If it matters my mother and I are not close physically or emotionally. My whole pregnancy she’s been a bit weird about boundaries, but recently she’s been saying she goes around “talking to the baby” we live hours apart so it’s not as in to my belly, like she’s just talking out loud. She expressed disappointment that my husband is the one that goes with me to appointments not her, and that he’s the one there when I have my c section. She’s also told her work that as soon as I have my c section she’ll be leaving work and coming here, despite us saying she’s not to come to the hospital and that we’ll let her know when we’re having visitors. I’ve told her I don’t want her to stay with us but she keeps saying she’s ’forgotten’. She’s also saying she will come over every week on the same day. This is especially strange given I’ve seen her once in the past almost year and has even had huge blow ups at me over text for saying we weren’t having a baby shower, to the point she called me disgusting and despicable and threatened no contact. I feel viscerally uncomfortable. It also doesn’t help she talks about having alone time with the baby when she’s ‘allowed’ and how she’ll teach the baby things I don’t want and “what happens on grandma’s time stays on grandma’s time”. I can’t tell if I’m overreacting