Intimacy after becoming first time parents

Our daughter is 2 months old and being intimate has been hard. We are only able to have sex like twice a week cause we're always so busy with the baby. When we finally have time I'm paranoid about the baby being in the other room. We try to make it quick because we're worried she'll wake up. I can't have her in the room with us because I just can't get into it if she's there in her crib or awake. How do you moms deal with this ?

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With my first baby sex was painful and akward for about 9m bc I tore. My second daughter is 5m now, me and hubby are just now slowly getting back into the swing of things. We've been intimate maybe 5 times in the past 5 months. I also have older kids and hubs had a demanding job. We're super understanding and forgiving and don't put too much pressure on ourselves.

Give yourself time. Your body is still healing and your still adjusting to this new phase of life.

So I tore a lot with my son but after about 7 weeks when my stitches healed I made it a priority sex is hard when you have a baby and a toddler you’re just so worn out. But we have a 72 hr rule no longer than 72hr without sex. Just try to make it a priority

It took me months to get into it. I honestly had to pretend to be into it for a while cause the baby was always on my mind but it goes away eventually

Girl, twice a week is impeccable. You are winning. I promise.

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