Feeling sad

I turn 37 this month, my son will be 3 in November.. being a mom has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I want a second but my husband does not. Ive been a SAHM and about to go back to work this week part time. When we got married 5 years ago we talked about having two children and idk my heart is breaking it’s been a really hard couple of months coming to terms with the fact that he doesn’t want another child. He loves our son but I don’t know I am grieving that I will be one and done and my son won’t have a sibling. I love my brother my husband never liked his sister. I feel like I was lied to I feel so discouraged. I just keep telling myself don’t get depressed about the could be child and focus all my energy on my beautiful boy and give him the love and life he deserves. I keep thinking that maybe this can be a good thing because we can provide him with extra activities we couldn’t afford and schooling we couldn’t afford with two.

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Has he given you a reason? If its related to something that could change in the foreseeable future id say dnt think all hope is loss. Alot of people are having kids older. I know its not ideal but it still can happen if he changes his mind in a few years.

You need to sit him down and speak to him and as the other commenter 'K' has asked... has he given you a reason? You need to explain that you both agreed to and wanted this when you got together and ask him what has changed for him that has made him change his mind? Then decide together whether it's something you can work through to have 2 children or be happy with your son. He can't just say "No" and if it's just 'no for now'... there is still time. X

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