Partner says i’m psychotic and selfish

We have had two under two, youngest is now 15 months and still wakes around 10 times a night. This weekend im taking the kids on a caravan holiday wirh family, my partner gets to have 3 days child free. My partner doesn’t have to do anything with our 15m old as she co sleeps and breastfeeds so every evening im up and down the stairs re settling her around 5 times whilst he gets the evening to himself, then he gets a full nights sleep co sleeping with our toddler. He also only sees the kids for two hours in the evening after work and multiple times a week I go and see family all day so he only sees them for half an hour in the evening meaning he has an extra long evening to do anyrhing he needs for himself. I am completely unable to meet my basic needs and take care of myself and im completely sleep deprived. He says I’m psychotic for asking him to finish off our flooring this weekend and do some jobs around the house, and that he should be able to make plans and enjoy himself whilst we’re away. I’m trying to explain to him how do you not understand that what you’re saying is selfish, you get every evening to yourself, and I’m always taking the kids out so he gets days to himself and breathers. Meanwhile I get 0 break, no time to take care of myself, I haven’t met up with a friend for over 3 years! How can he not see me in this situation? What are your thoughts? Who’s being out of order here?

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Just so mentally exhausted :(

I recently tied the knot with my boyfriend of over 2 years, and at first I was really excited. But that excitement has worn off and it’s like I don’t even wanna be around him anymore.

Yesterday he called me his girlfriend, which stung because shouldn’t you acknowledge me as your wife? Then he spends almost all of his time on his computer or twitter or doing whatever. He’s usually good with our son and takes a lot of the responsibilities but I feel left out a lot.

I’m gonna be a sahm of 2 under 2 soon, and I just genuinely feel so much stress rn. I spend most of my time out in the living room because I’d rather just be by myself than spend another quiet moment in our bedroom.

He either wants to play the game or watch a movie, which he doesn’t even watch. I just don’t know if I can do this anymore with him

Hi. Help please.

Ftm. My daughter is 7m old and I’m a WFH mum. Can someone tell me how to keep her busy because I’ve got her a play pen, and in the pen I’ve kept her stuffy’s and some toys but she quickly gets bored and starts to cry.
She’s crawling and pulling herself to stand, just don’t know how to keep her engaged. Any toy reccs or anything else. Thanks

Am I just being hormonal?

Sorry it’s a long one.

So my hubby made plans with Robert (not his real name) almost 2 weeks ago for tonight 4th of July. well as we were 10 mins in to the drive, Robert texts him saying he just got to the area and there’s no parking anywhere so we can’t come. And hubby called his friend Frank (not real name) he’s at a family event but said we can come but I don’t want to go anywhere anymore. The only person I will know is Frank and I won’t have anyone to “hangout” with while hubby hangs out with his friend. I feel like this day is ruined because of Robert and the poor communication and planning. And I’m currently trying to hold back my tears because I was excited to meet Robert’s wife and children. And even got the kids something to play with that I thought would be a good gesture.
Am I overreacting or being hormonal?

Also I’m 17w+5ds.

Would this bother you or am I being too sensitive?

My husband and I are both 27. We’ve been together for 10 years, have a 3 year old son, and I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant.

For years, I’ve told him that I really appreciate little check ins when we’re apart. I don’t mean constant messaging all day, and honestly it doesn’t bother me too much if he’s just out for a few hours. It’s more when he’s away for longer periods, like all day or overnight, that I find it difficult.

Whenever he goes out/away with friends/work, I usually don’t hear from him at all from the moment he leaves until he’s back home. This has caused a lot of arguments over the years because I’ve explained so many times that a simple message saying, “how are things?” or “how’s our son?” would mean a lot to me and make me feel thought about.

He has always said he’d work on it, but nothing has really changed. More recently, he’s told me that it’s just something I need to accept because he gets caught up in the moment and struggles with what he calls object permanence. From what I understand, he means that when he’s focused on what he’s doing, people who aren’t physically there can slip from his mind.

He’s away overnight with friends tonight and I haven’t heard a peep from him since he left this morning.

What makes me question myself is that whenever I’m with friends and they get messages from their partners throughout the day, I’m genuinely shocked and, if I’m honest, a little envious. Again, not because I want constant communication, but because it seems so natural for them to check in and let each other know they’re thinking of one another.

I want him to enjoy himself and have a good time with his friends, but I also want to feel like me and our family cross his mind while he’s away.

Am I overreacting for feeling upset about this?

Relate?

I love being a stay at home momma. And I’m so grateful but sometimes I feel like I need a break. Not even a long one. Maybe 30 minutes. But I feel so guilty asking for one. When I know my boyfriend works all day. And he wants to decompress from work and relax.

EVERYTHING IS UNATTRACTIVE BUT MY BODY

This man ant worth the two pennies he don't have
But for some reason my body is very much still attracted to this man. I'm talking about I get full body horny tingles just thinking about him.
Makes me want to fucking fight (ง ͠° ͟ل͜ ͡°)ง EVERYTHING.

When I say bum
78% of the day he spends gaming while I'm out here doing everything for 3 babies two of which need constant supervision.
He doesn't even come out to check on us I haven't heard him talk about finding a job in idk how long.
When I go to game every two games I come out to check to see if he needs help or if my babies are ok.
I'm sitting here having to beg folks online for help financially. cause he refuses to just work anywhere till he can get the job he wants.

Like I'm begging for help to buy a car for him to work and so I can reach my dreams of an RV so WE CAN STOP LIVING IN THIS MOLDY APARTMENT.
Then tells me I don't need to get a part time job I'm still looking cause I can't wait on him. I'm physically disabled who needs to be able to sit to work cause I'm a fall risk.