Step grandparent from Hell!!!
My baby will come from a double headed broken family. Where both sets of grandparents are divorced and remarried. My husband’s mother is a dream MIL I love her. My own mother is MIA and stuck in her own world somewhere in Ohio far away from us and doesn’t care. As is my father (he’s never been around) my issue is my FIL’s wife.
This woman has allowed herself to sit and fantasize and build unspoken expectations about my pregnancy experience and has made it all about herself. All of my very simple, very modern boundaries are unfair and suddenly specifically pointed towards her. She’s made my first pregnancy all about her feelings.
I never had an issue with her before even though my husband and BIL and MIL have all told me that she was nightmare to them back in the day and kept the boys away from their father by acting like brat when she didn’t get her way. She is younger than her husband by maybe 8 years. I am freshly F30. This woman has to be no older than 40 and no younger than 38.
Tell me why she thinks she has the authority to treat me like a child who made a mistake in high school and got pregnant. I have told her several times that I am not a child who needs lectured or corrected. Period. I am a 30 year old adult who has been waiting for my chance and my dreams of being a mother to come true.
Well, she makes that all about herself as well. “What about my dreams of being a grandmother, it’s unfair for you to think I’m not entitled to her too. When we are the ones who have been so kind to you”
So your love and kindness is conditional to how much access you have to MY child.
She randomly blocks me on social media and then will unblock me to comment on my posts and harass me. Random psycho check-ins where she feels the need to just lay into me and my choices as a mother. How I’m hurting her feelings. I don’t care any more.
This woman is so entitled I’ve met her maybe 15xs in the 8.5 years I’ve been with my husband. She thinks that makes us close, blood related. That I should want her there to hold my hand in the hospital. I don’t even want my own sister there. But that’s another thing that makes me so unfathomable to her. That I want privacy. Right now she’s mad at me because she doesn’t know my address and she literally thinks she is entitled to access my home whenever she wants. I really wish app let me post more than one photo because I’ve got screen shots.
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Stand on your feelings that’s YOUR baby , she is not entitled to YOURS CHILD . As I told my SOON to be ex mother in law , my child is not your redo baby , nor is she your chance to correct your mistakes this is my baby and what I say or do is MY business and goes !
Sorry to hear this. Sounds like my MIL and o can say it gets worse with age. As they get more bored and more set in their ways. My BIL has cut her off completely to the point where she hasn’t met his child. We are trying to stay on speaking terms but it’s difficult. Realizing I can’t heal or change her has been difficult but necessary. Either I make sure I don’t let her behaviour affect how I feel about myself is important. Dot let your boundaries down. Hope this helps a bit.
From what you’re describing, this woman would never be meeting my baby.
Gosh she’s not entitled to anything! Can you do anything about her?
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