So toxic

I love my husband with all of my heart and I know he loves me the same but damn we are so toxic for each other and I don’t know what to do. If we argue it never gets solved. He’s avoidant. I’m anxious attachment and we are both stubborn and stuck in our ways. I have legitimate reasons to get upset (but I don’t talk about them the right way), he takes no accountability and he’ll want space. I want to fix it immediately. But here’s the thing. I’ve tried the giving space thing. I’ve tried to communicate differently. Nothing works with him. He’s 50 years old and has been like this his whole life. He’ll leave for a drive. Which angers me more because I wish I can just say fuck my parental responsibilities and go for a drive. So I call him 150 times just to get ignored. Then he’ll finally say he takes some accountability, he’ll do better, I’ll do better and then it just repeats. It’s exhausting. He never wants to talk, his problem with me is all I want to do is talk it out.. yet we never talk it out because he always refuses. So the same argument happens again in three days. It’s actually annoying. I know I have a lot to work on myself because I hold things in until i explode but a lot of these arguments would never happen if he didn’t do half the things he does. Like today. He slept all day because he drank a lot at a 4th of July party last night. So I was alone on baby duty yesterday. Alone on baby duty today. When do I get to just sleep all day? But I can’t talk to him about it because god forbid. So I hold it in and end up snapping because I’m overwhelmed and mentally exhausted. Any advice? We are never going to leave each other so I’m just looking for ways to promote better communication ig.

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Husband travels, I stay at home.

My husband travels for work. We have a 3 month old little boy. He’s been away for a month, and this week he was home and now he’s back on the road for a month. I have this like raging angry depression everytime he leaves. My body and mind are so exhausted. I just wanted to post because I need some friends. I’m from Missouri, idk if anyone else is, but if you are let’s be friends! Trying to save for a new vehicle and a down payment on a house as well. 🤸‍♂️just hate the processs.

Would you let your baby stay with their in-laws if they had no reliable way to be contacted?

My in-laws have kindly offered to provide childcare for our baby when I return to work next year, however they are very old fashioned and I have concerns over safety.

They don’t have mobile phones, they don’t have a car or drive, they do have a landline phone but it’s quite old and unreliable. For example when we need to contact them we often have to email them and wait until the end of the day when they check their inbox to get a reply, sometimes this takes days.

My husband agrees it’s not ideal, but when it has been raised as a concern it’s met with ‘it’s worked for us so far’. I think they are very intimidated/scared of technology. We have been trying to coach them to use a mobile but they seem overwhelmed by it.

My concern is that on the days they have our child they won’t be able to contact us and/or take them somewhere if needed. Would you let your child stay as it currently stands?

Boundaries!!!!!!

My daughter is 5. shes just come back from her daddys. she said she showered with dads girlfriend. she didnt like it. i am fuming. am i right to be angry. why is a grown ass women getting naked in front of my daughter!!!!

Are any fellow February 2026 moms about ready to introduce purées to their babies and store bought or DIY

My 5 month old is showing all the signs of solid readiness. Her big brother’s pediatrician gave us the go ahead for purées at his 4 month appt. A day or two later we gave him his first puree and he did well and we slowly added it to his daily routine (still getting as many bottles at first). We moved and are in the process of getting a new pediatrician so she’s late for her 4 month check up but my hubby says “let’s go ahead and start”. I ofc have qualms even though she can almost fully sit on her own. She reaches for our food. Grabs toys and puts them in her mouth and makes sucking noises. I think she’s ready but should I wait until I get her a new pediatrician just in case? Have any of you started? I made all my purées from scratch and don’t really trust any brand except little spoon. But I haven’t even tried little spoon. Just seen it used when I worked in childcare and liked the organic ingredients.”

If your husband isn't okay with you doing stuff with other girls than don't cheat. I don't deal with cheaters.

She changed the Snapchat to delete automatically and stopped responding when I asked about her cheating. I don't deal with cheaters. This is her Snapchat.

Male staff at nursery

My son’s hours at nursery have been extended which means the staff has changed for those hours. His original hours only had female staff.

Has anyone else ever been in the situation where you feel uncomfortable knowing your child has a male member of staff?

The thought of an another male (other than my husband) changing my son’s nappy makes me feel uncomfortable. How would I approach the nursery to tell them 😬